Sometimes I wonder, that even though people want you to talk...
silence is better than talking. It's difficult to explain, like while they expect you to talk, they enjoy you more when you're quiet.
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SwampFlower · 31-35, F
Dan193 · 31-35, M
@SwampFlower I also noticed that people want to engage with you more when you don't speak. I think it could be because they feel some sort of power that they need to fight for with other people, but with us it comes easy, and it's comforting.
SwampFlower · 31-35, F
@Dan193 I cannot tell you how many times I have gone to someone for support and ended up advising them on their dramas and sorrows in life. 🤦
I've learned people rarely mean it when they offer themselves as a confidant. They say it as an empty pleasantry at best.
It's so much better to just pay someone to listen and not interrupt or talk over you.
I've learned people rarely mean it when they offer themselves as a confidant. They say it as an empty pleasantry at best.
It's so much better to just pay someone to listen and not interrupt or talk over you.
Elessar · 26-30, M
@SwampFlower I think that's because when someone opens to you that much, it's almost inevitable for most people to form a bond, seek reciprocity. It doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing, an empty pleasantry, in my opinion. A friend can't replace a professional, and vice-versa.
Elessar · 26-30, M
@SwampFlower I've noticed that kind of reaction from people who can't really handle my [o]negativity[/i] (read: refusing to see things positively when they're objectively not good).
I do have friends who can really listen to me and offer advice, but I don't want to overburden them either, so.. I can relate, somehow, I think.
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I do have friends who can really listen to me and offer advice, but I don't want to overburden them either, so.. I can relate, somehow, I think.
🤗