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Actually there is.... Not giving a sheet what others think of you! There is a reason the saying youth is waisted on the young!
@Conscience: thank you for challenging me. I'm not saying "what others think!" But what others think of you! You can't live you're life worrying that your being approved of! You have to live the integrity of who you are. Not what others want you to be
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@JoanieNewHampshire: That wasn't a challenge. 😕 I'm just going to leave it there if that's all you wanted.
@Conscience: 🙃That wasn't meant as anything but a compliment and a thank you for making me think and expand on my statement! We are all for the most part descent people. My point, priorities change and you drop what ever inhibitions you have as you get closer to those October days in your life.
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@JoanieNewHampshire: I figured you would be like those other people who only want a fight when you said the word "challenge". Those are so pointless, it always ends in a argument that gets nowhere because no one ever wanted to share ideas to begin with. They only wanted to prove something wrong or be right. No one has to lose in that kind of confrontation. It's a waste of time. I think I'll always care about what other people think of me. Not because I'm insecure or need their approval, but because I care about them.
@Conscience: that's a beautiful place to be.! I'm not into fighting! But I am into standing up for things that are meaningful. "Challenges" aren't supposed to be fights buy, want you find yourself striving for, and ar facing obstacles. From my perspective (I'm 62) conform inning to life (as it appears) becomes confrontational. I have learned. About what matters for me. And I'm not any longer letting the opinion of others of me control what I do with my life. It has nothing to do with my care and concern for another's well being
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@JoanieNewHampshire: I see what you meant. This is the internet so I'm very used to people attacking me rather than being happy with a challenge. :) We just care in different ways then. People's opinions on me control very much of what I do. To me, that is caring. I don't quite understand how people can never be affected by others and still say they care. I suppose they do, just in a different way from me. That's not really an age thing. I've seen all ages feel that way. Perhaps it's more common in older people though.
@Conscience: when we go through life not caring about others we have no empathy. And we should never go through life without being empathetic. There is nothing more rewarding to life then caring for another. This is not to be confused to changing what you feel your life for what others think your life should be. You learn later in life, that you are the most important to your life, and you've done all you can do for others. That it is now time to do for yourself. You realize that they have been a lot of people in your life asking you why or telling you that you can't. You simply stop believing them." It's your time"
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@JoanieNewHampshire: Maybe some people think that. I mean I accept myself and I'm perfectly happy with myself as far as beliefs go, but that's only because I do everything I can to help people. I act that way because I don't feel like I'm the most important person in my life. They are. I don't think I'll ever do anything for me because I can't. I'm not happy living that way, I don't care about me. That's just how I am. I cannot find contentment in caring about myself.
@Conscience: then perhaps you will never have to say it's time for me, and that a good thing. I just remeber my grandmother dancing in her life like no one was watching! I think that is the attitude that brings you to a place that allows you to do as you please for yourself and for others! And she did, it was standing room only at her memorial service and a line around the block trying to get in. She lived for herself regardless of what others thought of her. But she lived for many because bat was who she was. Loved by many!
@Conscience: I also care for others, but I've also had identified conflicts. When you can be you early on! I think that later in your life will be different