Why do people cheat? Why dont they just break up with their spouse if theyre just gonna cheat
41-45, F
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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
Several reasons.
The thrill of the forbidden.
It’s simply an easy way to get what’s lacking in a relationship.
The feeling of being too stuck in your relationship to leave it.
They’ve become accustomed to a lack of communication fueling a belief that they’re no longer wanted in that area.
At the core of everything, they don’t want to hurt those they still love by bringing that level of drastic change to their lives.
The thrill of the forbidden.
It’s simply an easy way to get what’s lacking in a relationship.
The feeling of being too stuck in your relationship to leave it.
They’ve become accustomed to a lack of communication fueling a belief that they’re no longer wanted in that area.
At the core of everything, they don’t want to hurt those they still love by bringing that level of drastic change to their lives.
SW-User
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Bullshit. You don't love someone you're lying to, to step out and have sex. The only thing with any integrity is letting the person know the truth - that you want to step out - and letting them decide whether or not to keep the marriage.
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@SW-User “...those they still love...” which could easily just mean their children and other family members.
I agree that communication should be shared, especially when it gets to that stage where one is considering an affair, but what you fail to realize is that many people do in fact love the person they end end up betraying. There’s something there that can still connect them to having loving feelings for them, but when it comes down to it they allow their bodies and deep down desires win the fight. The power of both can drown out the strength of the connection still there that kept them focused and driven to make it work if someone allows it to. Every single situation concerning such a thing is unique, but the one thing that is most certainly shared is the pain that’s felt by at least one of those involved.
I agree that communication should be shared, especially when it gets to that stage where one is considering an affair, but what you fail to realize is that many people do in fact love the person they end end up betraying. There’s something there that can still connect them to having loving feelings for them, but when it comes down to it they allow their bodies and deep down desires win the fight. The power of both can drown out the strength of the connection still there that kept them focused and driven to make it work if someone allows it to. Every single situation concerning such a thing is unique, but the one thing that is most certainly shared is the pain that’s felt by at least one of those involved.
PoetryNEmotion · F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Yet they do not "love" their spouses nor their children in the true sense of the word. They just want sex. It is important. It is similar to drug addicts wanting drugs. They do not care. They just want their addictions fed. Cheaters are the same.
SW-User
@PerfectionOfTheHeart No. That isn't love. If you love someone you don't treat them like that. Full stop. They're cowards and users.