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Do people start caring less about you when you get older?

Like when I was 7 when my mom abandoned me, people felt so bad. I through temper tantrums but now I’m almost 18, my friends and family are telling me it get over myself and move on. My older half brother said I’m not a little kid that cries for mommy anymore, she doesn’t want you or never calls you so forget her and move on. Even my best friends are getting tired of me talking about my mom. I few times I got told I should leave if I keep talking about my mom.
I cry when people insulted me as a child and my dad and siblings stood up for me but tell me to stand up for myself and stop crying. Now an an adult nobody stands up for me anymore. They told me I need to start standing up for myself and they won’t always be around to stand up for them. My aunt screamed at me and my aunt and uncle didn’t stand up for me. My aunt has NEVER yelled at like that as a child.

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Adstar · 56-60, M

There is a time for everything under the sun.. A time to mourn a time for joy.. A time for all the different emotions we humans experience..

But sometimes people get caught in one emotion.. For what ever reason they stay there and staying there ends up doing them real long term damage..

If a person stays in a state of mourning for their departed mother all their lives they will do long term damage to themselves.. You need to accept the loss of your mother and work to have a life from the new reality.. Positive energy / emotions is far better then negative ones when it comes to living ones life..

hartfire · 61-69

@Adstar Hi Adstar.
I've been corresponding with SweetiePieLay almost daily over the last few months.

She has "high functioning autism" - however, based on the questions and responses, it seems more like severe Aspergers. The later term has gone out of favour, but it more accurately describes the symptoms.
She has extreme difficulty in understanding human behaviour, emotions, responses, and ethics. I'd go so far as to say she has zero understanding.

Most of her confusion comes because she sees things as fixed realities, such as a "best friend is a friend for life." She believes such things as absolutely unchangeable and can't understand it when they turn out to be not true.
She obsesses over each new instance. And it would seem that the distress lasts for weeks, months and years.
She seems, at least as far as her posts here show, completely unable to move on.

I'm sure she could move on, but that it would require a specialist in therapy for Autism Spectrum disorders.
I have mentioned this to her several times, but she doesn't acknowledge it.

I am actually very worried about her. Her father appears to be a good, loving and responsible man, and yet it is as if no one has sought specialist help for her beyond the initial diagnosis.
If not treated, people with zero degrees of empathy can end up as psychopaths.
I would hate to see this happen to SweetiePieLay.

Adstar · 56-60, M

@hartfire Yes i have read her posts and i know she has Autism.. My post was an attempt to teach her how ""Normal"" people function..

People who are psycopaths Autistic or any of the other conditions can study the differences they have with ""Normal"" people and while they may have extreme difficulty Understanding ""Normal"" people they can know enough about normal people to be able to function within the boundaries set in society dominated by normal people..

There are a lot of people with these mental conditions who can function in society and even rise to high social status.. There are many High functioning psychopaths in the board rooms of many Corporations in this world..

Sweetiepielady if her age is accurate is entering the age where she can access treatment / training for herself.. So i hope she is able to access the kind of educating specialist who can help her live / function in the normal world with normal people doing normal things..

hartfire · 61-69

@Adstar Thanks. I'm glad you know.

And yes, I'm aware that highly intelligent psychopaths succeed far too well in psychopathic companies. Company law is structured in a way that encourages it. Unfortunately, this reality contributes to a lot of harm.
I have one acquaintance who was told she failed to get such a job because her psyche evaluation showed she was too high in empathy.

I'm inclined to believe SweetiePieLay's age, despite the seeming immaturity for her years, but I suspect there might also be a strong intellectual disability. Her grammar and vocabulary suggest a poor level of education for that age, or quite low IQ. It's also not consistent with the text language of that age group.

I'm very near the point of giving up trying to help.

Adstar · 56-60, M

@hartfire Yes i have worked under psychopath supervisors.. Many companies put a layer of these psychopaths between their upper management and the workers.. They want their supervisors to do what ever it takes to get things done.. A supervisor with empathy or a conscience will not be as ruthless or as stand-over-ish as a psychopath who is good at waging psychological warfare on the workers below them..

hartfire · 61-69

@Adstar That's it exactly.
This aspect of the world is a sad one.
I have no doubt that better models of management are possible.