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Therapeer - A site I won't recommend for Emotional Support


So I decided to sign up on this site, to see where I can give emotional support to people.

There was this adult female claiming to have been abused as a child...she said she did not want to go to therapy, and wanted to know what is her alternatives.

I told her that she can go on a spiritual journey to resolve her issues, that she can overcome the issues herself if she really wanted to.


I also told her that therapists often times do more harm than good.

I told her I was also a victim of abuse and can relate.

All she was interested in is hearing people telling her what she wanted to hear, she cussed out other abuse survivors who had 10 years more time to heal.

Another user suggested group therapy... I said it would be impossible with people like that, people who like to dissociate instead of healing, people whose peace rely on hearing what other people tell them so they don't have to deal with their own thoughts, people who cuss out survivors of abuse who managed to come to a place where instead of crying over their problems all day, seeking the wrong type of attention to distract them from their problems, some actually learned how to be still and deal with it in a mature way.

Well long story short the little chit decided to report me, and I got banned over this one stupid incident, because of an adolescent who pretended to ask for alternatives for therapy. I wasn't even a member of that site for one week. The admins were obviously very emotionally immature themselves to not be able to see how the reporting was unwarranted.

I was branded as insensitive to people's problems and making a joke of therapy.

If you want to get gaslighted by people who pity themselves every day, all day, go join that site - there is a lot people pretending to be counsellors that distract themselves from their own problems by pretending to know how help others.

That site should be renamed as the "dissociation club" with the slogan: a place where we don't heal, only cry and talk about sitting in therapy.

That site will never see me again, what was supposed to be a helpful open minded community is truly a closed-minded community, with healing on its lowest priority list.
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Miram · 31-35, F
I recommend you read about active listening. You cannot offer full support to people while taking their reactions personally, or expecting them to follow your advice. Even if they sound frustrated at you, that doesn't mean they don't want to be listened to.

Also, no two abusive experiences are one and the same. Yours and hers are not the same. It's normal for others to differ with you regarding the pace of their healing and the journey. It's alright if they need to vent about it, without actively opting for solutions, just like you needed to vent here.

Dissociation , in the psychological sense, is not something people choose to do. Perhaps you mean something else.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Miram people get addicted to dissociation because it helps them to NOT cope, they like to hide in that head space. It is not voluntarily when trauma happens, however some people choose to stay there after the trauma happens. I guess I don't play well with people who use their abuse as an excuse to manipulate others. There is a difference between healing and acting out...that girl is acting out and her heart is not in the right place. Her pace of healing, should not be an inconvenience to others or she should not use it as an excuse to exploit others for attention. She wants to be listened to only to get attention, not to heal or deal. Good point on not taking things personally, however I refuse to support pretend "victims" with ulterior motives for their "hurt" parade.
Miram · 31-35, F
@DianaGyana

It's good that you were made to leave. You're not ready to understand the differences nor the words you're using.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Miram you obviously know jacksh*t about introspection...go troll someone who cares about your shallow opinions dear!
Miram · 31-35, F
All she was interested in is hearing people telling her what she wanted to hear,

i.e

@DianaGyana
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Miram says the user who openly supports sociopaths... I hope it works out well for you. Now byebye felicia, go be entertainment for your sociopath and leave woke people alone.😱🤣🤣
Miram · 31-35, F
@DianaGyana You call yourself woke? That explains a lot.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Miram go feed your sociopath best friend supply, because I am not here to entertain that part of you the sociopath took from you okay!
Miram · 31-35, F
@DianaGyana That makes no sense, but it's consistent with the rest of your jibber-jabber.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Miram any person who can see your posts, can see that you are a simp for sociopaths. Yet you have the nerve to come and troll me. Wow. Maybe go troll your sociopath friend and tell us how that worked out for you.
Miram · 31-35, F
@DianaGyana

Most people here know my character. They know who I am , my truth and my strength.

You may wish to dig deeper in my profile just to avoid feeling so invalidated by my criticism. Anything but facing yourself I suppose, 'new' member.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Miram being a simp to sociopaths shows a lack of strength and character. Any how, I am not interested in being your friend, go troll someone who cannot see through your simpish lifestyle.
Miram · 31-35, F
@DianaGyana more gibberish 😴