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Therapeer - A site I won't recommend for Emotional Support


So I decided to sign up on this site, to see where I can give emotional support to people.

There was this adult female claiming to have been abused as a child...she said she did not want to go to therapy, and wanted to know what is her alternatives.

I told her that she can go on a spiritual journey to resolve her issues, that she can overcome the issues herself if she really wanted to.


I also told her that therapists often times do more harm than good.

I told her I was also a victim of abuse and can relate.

All she was interested in is hearing people telling her what she wanted to hear, she cussed out other abuse survivors who had 10 years more time to heal.

Another user suggested group therapy... I said it would be impossible with people like that, people who like to dissociate instead of healing, people whose peace rely on hearing what other people tell them so they don't have to deal with their own thoughts, people who cuss out survivors of abuse who managed to come to a place where instead of crying over their problems all day, seeking the wrong type of attention to distract them from their problems, some actually learned how to be still and deal with it in a mature way.

Well long story short the little chit decided to report me, and I got banned over this one stupid incident, because of an adolescent who pretended to ask for alternatives for therapy. I wasn't even a member of that site for one week. The admins were obviously very emotionally immature themselves to not be able to see how the reporting was unwarranted.

I was branded as insensitive to people's problems and making a joke of therapy.

If you want to get gaslighted by people who pity themselves every day, all day, go join that site - there is a lot people pretending to be counsellors that distract themselves from their own problems by pretending to know how help others.

That site should be renamed as the "dissociation club" with the slogan: a place where we don't heal, only cry and talk about sitting in therapy.

That site will never see me again, what was supposed to be a helpful open minded community is truly a closed-minded community, with healing on its lowest priority list.
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Carissimi · F
You do seem to lack empathy. It’s like you want the person, you are trying to support, do as you suggest they do. That’s not support. Support includes giving suggestions, as well as listening, but those suggestions are options that you should not take personally if dismissed by the other. The fact that you are berating this person now does not make you a supportive person. People going through issues need to go at their own pace, not a pace set by another. Sometimes they are in “mourning mode,” and just need to mourn whatever has beset them. What you did was “tell her” not support her. You said she can resolve the issues herself, if she really wanted to. Maybe she can, but it sounds critical not supportive. I don’t think you have empathy to support anyone.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Carissimi and you seem to know me based off this? I cannot share my experience about a negative experience, then I am the one lacking empathy. That sounds more like victimshaming and an attempt to gaslight me. Seems somebody is bored enough to troll people tonight. Thank you for your energy!
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Carissimi if empathy is telling people what they want to hear...then you keep them in a broken mode. I sure as hell don't want someone telling me cry all the time, your problems will go away if you keep on crying instead of facing your problems. You seem to have a crooked view of empathy ... if you support someone in their dissociation you are part of the problem, then you truly lack empathy. You must be proud of such world views no?
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@DianaGyana Actually she has a point, that's not empathy that's the opposite. That's not what a therapist is supposed to do at all, you have to work with the person and mostly listen to them, its not your place to be tough with them.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn and that is how therapists rob you of your money, and tell you you are the eternal problem to your own problems. They keep people in victim mode and it suits their pockets. if your therapist is not tough on you, then you don't have a therapist but exploiter and manipulator for the smiles to the bank
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@DianaGyana Thats retarded. You probably shouldn't be one if that's what you think therapy is. The reality is you told a teenager who wanted to be listened to that therapy does more harm than good, and talked about people whining about their problems. I agree its not ideal, but most people there aren't in a place where they can deal with their problems and just get on with it. So technically that is actually pretty insensitive and you can't do that if you're being a therapist to somebody.

That doesn't take away from the fact that some of the toxic people and crap therapists do exist, but I get why they had to get rid of you on that site. Not saying you're a bad person, I think you're just in a place where you've already done the work and have forgotten how hard it was when you couldn't. Or maybe some people just don't deal with it as well as you do.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn she wasn't a teenager, an adolescent who was at countless therapists and it did not work for her...wonder why?🤣🤣
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn she did not want to be listened to, she wanted to unleash her frustrations on people left and right, she only wanted to hear her own voice...I get now she was not asking for help...she was just looking for attention.. probably why no therapist can help her🤣
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@DianaGyana Why is a conspirisy theorist trying to be a therapist then if you don't even think it works? o_o you sound like the emotionally immature one laughing at people who're in a negative place and complaining about them to other people on the internet.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@DianaGyana I got that mixed up with the teenager who got you banned, that doesn't change things though you're not supposed to say that to people seeking therapy lol. wtf.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn people can heal, but not if they abuse therapy or alternative therapeutic measures. Good one calling me immature for pointing out emotional immaturity. (Facepalm)
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn she was not seeking therapy, and clearly not healing...she was there to get attention and blow off steam, manipulating people. Probably a little sociopath
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@DianaGyana I like how you frame that -_- denial. I'll end this by saying I now fully support their decision. Have a good un
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn so telling people to deal with reality is a no no, in traditional therapy... ok I get that.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@DianaGyana You're a fucking idiot. She's not a sociopath, this is why people like you shouldn't be on sites like those. ffs. idiot.
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn and that is why people like you should not be taken seriously. Goodbye felicia
DianaGyana · 36-40, F
@Ryannnnnn you are a poor judge of character... you will probably get fooled by a sociopath or narcissist one day and you won't notice the red flags until it is too late. I won't say I wish it upon you, but you probably need the experience to wake up regarding the sickness that exists in people
Carissimi · F
Exactly! While a good therapist (or a good friend) does not enable, or condone, poor behavior, mental health and the suffering of such is very much an individual experience, and listening and understanding is not the same as agreeing with someone’s actions or reasoning. One thing a therapist does not do is to criticize. Once you do that, you have lost the person’s trust, and they will never want to share anything with you again. Supporting is NOT judgmental. It’s also NOT enabling. It’s a fine line, and probably why not many are good at it. @Ryannnnnn