Are there still people out there thinking long distance relationships

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic I had one as well. Lasted two years, we broke up because we ultimately realized the distance was real and we were living in different worlds.

@Ratatouillesque I know what you mean, our lives were taking a different direction, she didn't study in university just to become a waitress in my country because she doesnt know the language (if she had to move she preferred my country) and instead took an opportunity to work somewhere abroad, I don't blame her. I don't even know if I can call it a real relationship, for 2 years we've been physically together for around 3-4 months only.

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic You guys had feelings and you met eachother for quite some time yes it is a relationship and no one can deny it. It's just that people assume distance will eventually not be as much of an issue as it is and there are all the variables that you have to take into consideration. Especially if you start it online. Not seeing your person frequently and not really knowing what their life looks like and how they act in real life and how you live with each other is kind of a tricky start.

@Ratatouillesque Wish it was like one of those fairytales where we find a way to live together but unfortunately that's not what happened, probably haven't been the best boyfriend either, analyzing the past I realize times I've been inconsiderate or selfish that might have played a role too, I hope I've matured since then (we broke up almost 3 years ago). Honestly I'm not very social and have no idea how the dating thing works in this life, it will be a miracle if I ever find a girlfriend again.

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic you might be the male version of me as I am exactly the same. I always believed I ll find my person online since I suck with socializing. It took an Erasmus year to realize I met him in university. Now currently I live in my second homeland country where he is too.
You'll find her. And I sincerely hope you ll find her close to you.

@Ratatouillesque Online is just so much easier, your insecurities and the things you dislike about yourself dont matter because no one can see them and you can be who you feel like being if nothing was holding you back, only words, only your mind that is the only thing the other person can see and it's so stress free. When I talk to girls irl if they're not my friends already I cant tie two sentences without forcing myself.

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic but try to remember that when you talk to somebody online if YOU are your better version of you, so is the other person. Trust me when I say that you can still be yourself, and speaking for me I'm antisocial and shy and quiet most of the time but I try to be nice with everyone and just being nice with someone will be appreciated by the right person.

@Ratatouillesque Niceness is not enough to win you anything I know that from experience, I try to be nice to everyone and no girl has ever been interested in me for that, I'm not very outgoing so I'm not very funny or interesting, I'm actually kidna stiff and put average looks on top of that and you have yourself a disaster. People are wired to go after charisma.

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic Nah. It's like having a conversation with me, when I talk with you. There are people like you and me who feel a little out of place and insecure and uncharismatic. It's not just us two feeling like this. There's so many people who think the same about themselves but manage to hide it and push through in social circumstances. And also, try to not make it your focus to appear nice and approachable to girls because it doesn't work. Try to just not care about it but maintain your morals of being a nice person. it will not go forever unnoticed.

@Ratatouillesque I've long lost hope but it's comforting to talk to someone who knows how I really feel.

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic please just believe your poor little neighbour. I ve done the whole foreveralone ordeal on reddit, I've been heartbroken for 5 years thinking I'll never find love again (love which I found online to begin with)
It will happen. We re far away but from just your replies I knew I liked you. You have interesting and good thoughts, put it into outside world whenever you want and feel it's a good setting for you. It will eventually work out and when it does give me some credit for it :p