comment an unpopular opinion you have

i think we’re born being attracted to what we’re attracted to, when you’re attracted to something you feel it all at once @SW-User

@lilangel that's why I said it's unpopular 😂
Lots of people want to believe we're born outta control of what we come to be attracted to :v

I don't think I can just believe in it without understanding why and how. It's like a big leap of faith :v

@SW-User I know people who tell me their sexuality has been fluid and changed in their life. They're not lying about it. I think for some people it will be rigid (though not necessarily "born" with it), and for others it won't be.

when you’re attracted to something it’s a feeling that happens in like a split second, you don’t analyze it beforehand@SW-User

@SW-Userdo you have an example?

@SW-User it's whatever you grow up feeling comfortable with. You can grow up having personal reflections on your past experiences and thoughts point you towards thinking you are straight .-.

We try to heighten the odds of that in the U.S. with cultural stereotypes, now being challenged by the LGBT community. I think it's quite straightforwards tbh :v

Some will settle and others will not be so rigid in their love for something

@Peppa I love chocolate ice cream. I love it so much that it is the only ice cream I can enjoy, nearly. I cannot enjoy strawberry ice cream nearly as much as chocolate. I don't think for a day that my physical enjoyment and satisfaction and love for chocolate was something I was born with ._.

I didn't even KNOW of even specifically CHOCOLATE ice cream until I tried ice cream itself. Plain vanilla. Then different flavors, then stuck with chocolate and became somewhat immovable now in my passion for chocolate EVERYTHING :V

This can apply to more than just chocolate. This affect hobbies. We have favorite hobbies. Favorite musical genres. Favorite cultural appeal [clothes you choose to wear that makes you happy to display]. We don't come pre-programmed but adapt to the world we live in, right? I hope you see what I mean. Favorite way to achieve sexual gratification is certainly something you can love a specific fashion .-.


Hell, we even got favorite human beings above others that we call friends 😂
Above that, we still select more those we enjoy and call them best friends

I think the examples are plenty but wanna find a justificatiom in DNA ._.
Tis a bizarre obsession to me considering science still doesn't back it up since the bettermost of a century now

We don't need it to :v
Nobody cares imo

Example conclusion: OBVIOUSLY if I never was exposed to ice cream or chocolate, I would never have chocolate ice cream be my favorite :v
I certainky would not even know it existed at all and would never even feel empty about it, just simply cuz I don't know it. You simply don't know what you don't know and emotions are fickle

@SW-User Everything we do is regulated by a hormone of some type. Otherwise we would sit in place and never eat, drink, sleep, do anything for fun, reproduce, take care of and protect our young. The truth is science has no idea why people like what they like. Why do people like kink? Why do some people want nothing more than to have their leg amputated? Who knows.

@MySecretIdentity1 we have an understanding of desensitization ._.

Once you become desensitized to something, you move on to a new stimulant to achieve satisfaction. Kinda like how people who indulge in so much sex and porn tend to suffer erectile dysfunction or how if you take a drug frequently, you stop feeling its effect as strongly over time. This concept of tolerance moves us on and helps develop kinks .-.

Or swapping drugs for stronger substances for stronger highs or many things :v

Again, it's unpopular but this is my personal view 🤷🏾‍♂️
It hurts nobody

Nobody is attacking you hun. @SW-User

@lilangel I don't feel attacked 😐

I'm chilling. Just hope my view offends nobody

@SW-User your chocolate ice cream example I can explain.. My father is a chocolate freak, always has been, growing up I loved chocolate but it was restricted because my mum was a no sugar no salt freak.
I love chocolate and eat it almost exactly the same way my dad did now I'm an adult.
I was always given all foods to try due to my mum wanting me to have a healthy balanced diet. My love for food and passion for cooking and skills comes from my father. Not my mother I didn't live with my dad and he rarely cooked at home because of my mum.
My sexual preference has always been for men, I don't have a particular type all the men I've dated have been very different I like them mostly for instant physical attraction and mental intellect unfortunately the one I've been hooked on was due to looks and faked mental intellect-hes a con artist he knows his opponent and is skilled at moulding himself to suit. When we got together one thing hooked me then my heart followed young and stupid😒...
I had a crush on Mariah Carey when I was young but then I realised it wasn't a crush I actually wanted to be her because at the time she was liked by all men white black Asian etc something that I wasnt privileged to. Being a dark skinned black woman I'm disregarded and fetishsized, treated like I'm worthless in comparison to someone like her. I actually bought into wanting to become her to be accepted. (bullied my whole life, can't find a decent relationship as I'm often told I have too high an opinion of myself-causing people to actively prove to me that I'm beneath them) my parents especially my mum was always telling about free love and encouraged me to date whoever I wanted but I like men, and find the aggressive nature of lesbian women towards me quite intimidating thats not attractive and it doesn't make me want to be with them either

@Peppa I think your story matches what my story :v
So hopefully we're on the same page of my understanding of things cuz I certainly can see where you are approaching from

@SW-User i added on some more in the end...
But i will say this I don't get or understand the new 100 genders there are or the fluidity stuff only because years ago we were moving away from labels as we deemed them harmful to forming prejudices. Now it seems there's a massive movement for it and of course a massive dislike for anyone that states they are hetero and refuses to join in on being labelled differently.
Im straight and although I'm telling you never felt the need to justify my sexuality. Especially as I've been greeted with suspicion that in fact I am lesbian or bi, so my fight has always been the other way. To the point where for large periods of my life I've been "single" then "sex mad" to prove my identity... Single for not wanting to just date anyone, then sex mad for attracting the kind of men I liked at a high frequency during a period of time. Does that make sense? My sexuality has always been straight but I was raped by my female cousin as a child.(I got married to a young boy in nursery)