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Why can't my mom be like other moms?

My mom abandoned us, she isn't interested. Seeing my friends with their mothers bonding makes me sick. My friends seem happier than me. Mom had chances to be in your lives and SHE NEVER TOOK THEM!!!!!
Yes I am bitter. I mean my mom left.
It isn't fair! Why can't I have a loving mother? I tried and I tried but my mom WONT DO IT! WHY DOESNT SHE WANT US?!

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Abstraction · 61-69, M

Here's the thing. Your mum's behaviour is nothing to do with you. It doesn't say you weren't worthy of loving. It doesn't say you aren't now.

It only tells you she had her own struggles. Something inside her that was too big for her to handle.

So you need to make a choice, because you're like a person whose life is at the crossroads.

Road 1. Hold on to the pain. Continue to nurse it, continue to want something in the past that you cannot ever change. Ask yourself, where has this led you so far? Where will it take you?

Road 2. Let go and start to live.

NotValid · 31-35, F

@Abstraction I don't wanna hold on to the pain but I need my mom.

Abstraction · 61-69, M

@NotValid You just did a circle back to the same spot by saying that.

You don't actually need your mom. You can live a great life without her. Lots of people do. As long as you keep telling yourself you need her, you are stuck. Write her a letter or something that you'll never post, to tell yourself, you really wanted a mother, but since she wasn't able to be there, you are going to move on. Something for closure.