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Bad childhood experiences

Do you think if you have had bad childhood experiences, you are still damage goods even if you have worked and overcome all of it 馃槉
Mamapolo201670-79, F
Absolutely not. Far too many children have had nightmarish childhoods throughout history and not only survived, but became valuable and effective adults and parents.

Whatever was done to you was NOT your doing and NOT your fault and is not a reflection on the person you are or the person you can be.
TheSunisout56-60, M
[@663519,Mamapolo2016] just trusting issuies
Mamapolo201670-79, F
That makes sense. The trust muscle is like any muscle. Start exercising it slowly and carefully.

Trust somebody to show up when they say they will. Then trust them not to embarrass you at a coffee shop. Slow but sure. [@11430,Thesunisout]
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Picklebobble256-60, M
Depends what they were and how badly they affected you.
Blaaah26-30, F
No, not if you have overcome issues that might have come from what you'v been through. That can sometimes be very difficult, but always possible I believe, especially with a bit of professional help. :)
ragingfire31-35, M
The scars remain, but it鈥檚 up to you if you want those to define you. I didn鈥檛. I rose above my demons and I don鈥檛 let them captivate me. As an adult we always have a choice.
Starcrossed41-45, F
Generally speaking, probably yes in some way.

If you're lucky or the experience wasn't too painful/damaging then no.
TheSunisout56-60, M
[@580386,Starcrossed] I just feel I dont connect with people unless they have been though something similar.
ravenwind4346-50, F
It shouldn't. If you continue to focus on the fact that you're "broken" then you stay in a victim role.
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For some its like butterfly wings: once touched, they never get off the ground
ShaythePanTransMan18-21, T
No, the idea of 鈥渄amaged goods鈥 is just incorrect.
MarkPaul22-25, M
TheSunisout56-60, M
[@8638,MarkPaul] I think so too, I have over come all of it but it has left me different and something I will never get back.
MarkPaul22-25, M
[@11430,Thesunisout] Exactly. We can (and should) certainly overcome our past experiences that left us traumatized. But, they don't simply erase themselves. While it's nice to fantasize about restarting with a "clean slate," each of our experiences are indelible... even the ones we have blocked from remembering. On one hand and perhaps the bright side, that makes us who we are, but it does leave us "damaged." That being said, it doesn't have to be a death sentence, so to speak. But, the cold reality is, the damage doesn't disappear.
Pinkstarburst51-55, F
Nope. Our past is the past.

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