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Nerdsmith · 51-55, M
It should be done kindly. It should be done. Let's not pretend fat is healthy or attractive... There's really no good way to tell someone something to that effect. Holy hell, though, there's some really bad ways to say it. Okay, they're fat and unhealthy... They're also wonderful people and deserve respect... And truth.
SW-User
@Nerdsmith I think you can make them be more aware of their health issues without having to fat shame them. And there's no way you can fat shame them "kindly"
Nerdsmith · 51-55, M
@SW-User I think we agree but differ in the semantics. Easy to do in this day and age. I'm too young for new definitions to established convention, in my opinion. I can't control others perceptions and offense is easily perceived. Tough love has its place, plain and simple. In my day it was called constructive criticism. Now it's more likely to be called a hate crime.
SW-User
@Nerdsmith Lol fat shaming is NOT tough love. It's bullying