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Someone...anyone..help fix me?

I usually tense up or flinch when someone touches me
It's never a noticeable flinch..and no I wasn't abused by anyone ever in my life...
But Think it's always only when men try to touch me even if its friendly
I feel myself recoil mentally lol

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

People actually go to therapy for this sort of thing, where the therapist gradually introduces increasing levels of touch.

But maybe you can do something without a therapist. If part of the recoil reaction is being taken by surprise, can you try this?

Is there someone you trust who you can confide in, and with whom you can spend some prolonged time in "structured touching". Maybe start with holding hands until you are comfortable. Then maybe a hand on a shoulder. that sort of thing. All the while, talking to each other about what is going through your head.

(I definitely am not talking about anything sexual here.)