I love being trash talked by my parents it's wonderful. Though it is nice to know that my brother defends me.

Poor you ,,
My Dad was ousted from his family fortune over the woman he chose to marry
I was disowned for not voting how Grandpa told me to ,,
We lived ,and I went on to be very successful on my own
and I did it with a disease eating my spine ,,
My revenge is I have a lot of college grads under my belt that I sent to college ,,and they wanted to go ,they had a choice
I wanted them to have the life I was denied
Grandpa was right about my Mom ,she did ruin my Dad
but that was his choice to make ,,I have a lot of respect for my Dad
at least he lived his convictions
When we brag about the "money" we come from ,,we devalue ourselves
I may not have the family home that is a historical landmark
and my cousin the bank president may not ask me out to dinner ,,
I can say with pride ,,,I made my own ,,and I did it my way

My Grandpa's both of them said they were proud of me before they died
My Dad said I was the reason he was born ,,I would do more then he ever did
and he helped put men on the moon ,,without Grandpa's money

I am proud of my heritage ,,but that was their success
I made my own

Make something of yourself and show them as my Grandpa used to say
"there is more then one way to skin a cat "

I think parents just want success for their children. They know they will leave their children (you) alone in this world some day. They want to pass the wisdom they’ve accumulated on to you so that you can be successful and lead a happy life. That’s what most parents want anyway. I have a son too so I know. Young people including myself once upon a time tend to think about the now and not the later because they aren’t worried about it. It’s easy to get caught up in the bow. It won’t always be there though. We get tired eventually too. We won’t always have the drive. In my experience some people aren’t suited for a life of high maintenance. I think that’s okay too. As long you’re safe and happy, that’s what counts.

Maybe they now realize that they pushed you too hard. They probably just wanted the best for you. Young people have a tendency to think they have plenty of time to pursue a job or whatever it is they are looking for. But older people know the reality and I am willing to bet that they wanted to pass that reality on to you. But college isn’t for everyone. I’m sure they now realize and accept that. Though I’m just going by what your post says. 🙂