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Steveninman · 46-50, M
If you don't close something then you haven't dealt with it. Some things you CANNOT deal with at the time and moving on is your only option, for survival! This sucks because you postpone the inevitable. Be ready, it will raise it's head to haunt you. Strengthen your resolve to move forward. In battle it is referred to as Bypassing snipers to maintain forward momentum. Just be aware there are snipers at your rear.
PS I'm dealing with this now!

Why hold on to it? It never profits us and just keeps us living in the dead past. We can't change that, but there is one thing we can do, and that is love ourselves enough to change what we can today, and because we learned from our past, it taught us how to live better by doing better. We can even make our own closure for the past, if we weren't able to, then. Whatever that looks like to you. Nothing is too weird. I've even written my feelings down on a piece of paper, in detail, whatever I wanted to write or yell about or whatever, and then I released them to God by taking them outside and burning them in the trash barrel, letting the ashes and smoke reach up into the heavens. That was my closure. Some may want to write a letter to someone apologizing, and then release it to God. Whatever it takes for your heart to feel better, is what you can do. It's called Life, because we we're meant to live it, not bury ourselves in the past.
NativeOregonian · 51-55
I had to disown my own grandmother and uncle for what they did to me, took a lot of years to move on from it.
Fernie · F
@NativeOregonian Don't let them hurt you anymore..as long as they are in your head...they are still hurting you
NativeOregonian · 51-55
@Fernie It will never stop hurting, they were my Dad's own mother and little brother. But what makes things even worse is that my own two older brothers refuse to take my side on this, despite our grandmother and uncle talking shit about them in the past as well.
Fernie · F
@NativeOregonian Never said it WOULD stop hurting...I said you don't have to react to it as if they were still hurting you. You have the power to let it go enough so the pain is minimal. Only you can make it better. Stop reliving it. You can't change anyone else/your brothers who are probably afraid to know the truth...accept what is and was and live YOUR life free of the past...there's no future in the past. Please don't say "it's not that easy" which is always what people say when they become comfortable reliving the events...we have to do the work, chase the past away....you really can do that
ImKelsey · 26-30, F
Every time you get a flashback silently say FU to everyone involved. It will stop.
whateverhappens · 26-30, F
Never wanna experience or know
bearinthebigbluehouse · 26-30, M
Wish death upon him until i die/and or forget about it and play videogames. ʕ ᵔᴥᵔ ʔ ........ Oh... That's just for one thing.. Umm.... Well, just hope it went better than I expected............ I suppose....
Fernie · F
@bearinthebigbluehouse "Resentment...like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die"
bearinthebigbluehouse · 26-30, M
@Fernie Ooooooooooooooooooo that's entirely true but....... MAN I get so pissed just thinking about what happened.... I see past my own stupidity.. ┬┴┬┴┤•ᴥ•ʔ
Fernie · F
@bearinthebigbluehouse You ARE aware of it and that in itself is healing...BUT... every time you rehash it...they are still doing it to you..you're keeping it alive...giving it and them POWER over you and your life...you might as well be back there again. They can't hurt you anymore. Thoughts can be changed when they pop into your head...you have that power...use it
JollyLily · F
I don't know. I wish I knew how to move on from certain things in my past. I feel stuck in a neverending loop making the same stupid unconscious mistakes and not knowing how to move on
Effloresce · 26-30, F
Repress it until it re-emerges every so often and causes all sorts of awful emotions.
Fernie · F
@Effloresce Repressing trauma manifests as physical illness
Effloresce · 26-30, F
@Fernie I know :/ it has been a very difficult process to work on not doing it because I’ve been repressing things since I was a young child.
Fernie · F
@Effloresce My childhood was filled with beatings, broken teeth, being sexually molested by pig males from age 5-11. I promise you....you can let it go if you really want to
Fernie · F
I've worked hard to let go of the horrors of my childhood...do the work and moving on is always possible
SW-User
Torture yourself and get tortured by others till your soul separates
royalblue1193 · 31-35, M
Try to come up with your own conclusion

 
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