When you never truly get closure from something in your past, how do you deal with it and move on?

@NativeOregonian wise move! No matter WHO it is...toxic people must be eliminated from our lives

@Fernie I am just glad my Dad and Grandfather were not alive to see what happened, it would have torn both of them apart.

@NativeOregonian Don't let them hurt you anymore..as long as they are in your head...they are still hurting you

@Fernie It will never stop hurting, they were my Dad's own mother and little brother. But what makes things even worse is that my own two older brothers refuse to take my side on this, despite our grandmother and uncle talking shit about them in the past as well.

@NativeOregonian Never said it WOULD stop hurting...I said you don't have to react to it as if they were still hurting you. You have the power to let it go enough so the pain is minimal. Only you can make it better. Stop reliving it. You can't change anyone else/your brothers who are probably afraid to know the truth...accept what is and was and live YOUR life free of the past...there's no future in the past. Please don't say "it's not that easy" which is always what people say when they become comfortable reliving the events...we have to do the work, chase the past away....you really can do that