Think about that for a sec

My not bf does that constantly. He tries to make himself look like a victim so he can make other people victims. I mistakenly thought he'd stopped that but he hasn't. My general way to deal with it was attack him because he's gonna accuse me of it anyway and then join him in twisting the whole thing.

I thought that he'd grow out of it but he hasn't.

When I met him he said "I listen to what the woman I'm with says and I get to know what she likes and wants" Lies, he doesn't listen.

When I met him he said "he likes going out for days out and doing couple things" lies, he hates going anywhere. He doesn't enjoy anything - he doesn't like looking at museums or the sea or theatre or cinema or anything (I love all those things), he thinks food is a waste of money (and I love good food).

When I met him he said "I love cuddling" that's true but that's because touch brings bonding and you can't have trauma bonding without the bonding side so he creates trauma by ruining days out, anything we do together and then expects physical contact. I can live without it and I love doing things alone so I added it all up and realised he scores about -28 as a bf.

But constantly he'll try to make it look like I'm ruining everything and he's hard done by. That'd f with my head except my brain separates everything (I grew up in a difficult environment). So I can go somewhere and enjoy the place even with someone saying horrible stuff to me because a different part of my brain deals with emotional stuff (abuse). Another part of my brain works out how to get physical things I want whilst in whatever situation I'm in. So basically I'm used to it. I want to try to bring all my brain working together so I have to get rid of the not bf. He's "not bf" because he doesn't do bf things. He talks to people to make it look like he's a great partner but he's not a partner at all.

That takes a bit of getting your head round!

Are you attacking me bro? 👊