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If you had the choice would you rather be an introvert or an extrovert?

I'm an introvert by nature unless I'm wound up about something I'm particularly passionate about. Then I come out of my shell. I'm not as dumb as some people think I am simply because I'm quiet. They're quite surprised sometimes. 🤭
Elegy · 46-50
I like being an introvert and I have extroverted moments, I'm good.
Zoranna · F
@Elegy I'm sure you are.
TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
I'm an introvert by nature too. I've had moments when I've wished that I could be more extroverted, when I've been nervous about meeting new people, or struggling to come up with something to say in a job interview. But I've come to realize that I'm really better off being an introvert. I sometimes see some (though not all) extroverts being rude, by asking questions and then talking over people when they try to answer, or bouncing quickly from person to person to person, asking "How are you?" and then moving on to the next person before they can answer, or just blurting out thoughtless, hurtful statements without thinking. I tend to have the opposite problem. I have things that I want to say but struggle with finding just the right way to say them, and then I kick myself later when the right words come to me.

However, I have my moments, when something that has been building inside me for a long time comes out and takes everyone by surprise. I think in some ways I resemble a volcano, or at least my emotions do. They build slowly, unnoticed by almost everyone around me, until they can no longer be contained, and then, when I go off, watch out. I guess this is rather unhealthy, and it has been known to get me into trouble at times. I suppose the trick is to find the right moment to say what I need to say, in a calm way that will have the right effect. But this is hard when some people don't want to listen.
Zoranna · F
@TeresaRudolph71 I'm so sorry, I missed your reply. I can understand and sympathize with your situation. I don't think I'm a complete introvert, per se, but I am very reserved. I too though cannot think quick of an appropriate reply quick enough and often think afterwards "I should have said ....!" You are definitely not alone though in the way you feel. 🤗
GLITTER · 36-40, F
I like my middle ground of introvert/extrovert. It means i can be outspoken when I want to and also I can hide away if I’m feeling nervous
Zoranna · F
@GLITTER Yep, know exactly where you're coming from. 💞
HannahSky · F
Introvert. It's more comforting.
HannahSky · F
@Zoranna I like being introverted. I can speak my mind, but I need my alone time.
Zoranna · F
@HannahSky I can and do speak my mind too, when I want to. Some do underestimate me much to their surprise. I relish my time alone too so I completely understand, particularly coming home from a very LOUD family gathering. 😊
HannahSky · F
@Zoranna 🧡
Dusty101 · F
I'm actually an outgoing introvert!
Zoranna · F
@Dusty101 Love your answer! 😄
Peaches · F
Yeah, 😌my brother was like that too. I miss him so much! Same thing with kind people, some will think they're weak. That's another BIG MISTAKE!😏
Zoranna · F
@Peaches How true that is. I'm so sorry about the loss of your brother. 😔 I miss mine too, terribly.
Peaches · F
@Zoranna I'm sorry you lost your brother too. My brother died in '94.💙
Zoranna · F
@Peaches It's heartbreaking I know. We lost Michael in 2002. 💞
Gangstress · 41-45, F
I'm torn between the two. My hearts an extrovert but my mind is introverted. Funny. I love going out and stuff but then feel like shit for days
Zoranna · F
@Gangstress Awww Your heart is huge, please try and ignore your mind. Just go and enjoy yourself and don't think! Easier said than done, I know. Huge hugs.
Gangstress · 41-45, F
@Zoranna 🤗🤗❤

Happy Sunday chick x have a lovely day
Zoranna · F
@Gangstress Thank you! You too. 🤗💞
snofan · M
I'm an introvert. I work with people, so have to be extrovert while working but it exhausts me. I don't mind that, but I need my space at the end of each day.
Zoranna · F
@snofan I'm sure it does exhaust you, enjoy "your time".
snofan · M
@Zoranna Thank you.
Nanori · F
I'm an extrovert, I like that I can make friends in any situation but I wish I could slow down sometimes
Zoranna · F
@Nanori Good for you. I'll bet, you must be exhausted at times. 🌺
TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M
I'm introvert by nature as well. Excellent choice in my decision. If I had to choose? I would choose the same. My life is more calm and peaceful. There is less drama and excitement. I meet less people but the quality of people I deal with matters more than the quantity.
Zoranna · F
@TheunderdogofNY I didn't have the choice, neither did you, but I prefer being an introvert actually. The extroverts seem to want so much attention and they get it, but I don't want that sort of attention. My family is weird, we have a mixture of both but one of my sisters and I just sit back and watch the others. They make a fool of themselves sometimes, but do you know what? They don't give a damn! 😂
TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M
@Zoranna the want for attention and validation is causing so many problems nowadays.
Zoranna · F
@TheunderdogofNY Totally agree. *sigh
SW-User
I'm an introvert ,I think life would be easier if I were an extrovert...since introverts are perceived in a negative way
Zoranna · F
@SW-User What? lol Introverts? I'm always thinking and very rarely speak. I think you meant extroverts, right? Laughing now. 😂
SW-User
@Zoranna geez sorry ...I meant extroverts ...I'm tired 🤣
Zoranna · F
@SW-User Sleep well. 😴
blendednotshaken · 51-55, M
spent more time trying to be an extrovert, and had to get honest bc. i'm actually shy and quiet and require alone time. But still attempt to be extroverted at times.
Zoranna · F
@blendednotshaken Trying to be an extrovert would be exhausting after a while but I know exactly what you mean. Fun so long as you don't have to keep it up and can appreciate actually being who and what you are. I think it's easier when with people you're very comfortable with, but then on the other hand ... 🤔. I'm totally confusing myself here. 😂
I'm an introvert (INFJ), and can't imagine not being. I don't always like it, but I don't feel I have a choice. It's just who I am.
Zoranna · F
@PhoenixPhail I'm the same but it's who we are.
Same. Most people don't know me, at all.
@Zoranna I like to be in control of that, as well.
Zoranna · F
@PhoenixPhail You are. Cheers. 🥂
@Zoranna 🥂 🤗
I am an introvert, but I have a job that demands a degree of extroversion ..
Zoranna · F
@Texasgurl That's when acting skills come in handy. 😉
So I am told@Zoranna
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
I wish I could be just the right balance.
Zoranna · F
@samueltyler2 I hear you, but it's best just to be yourself.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Zoranna but, I'd prefer myself to be just the right balance.
Zoranna · F
@samueltyler2 I know but no one is. C'est la vie.
I've always been introverted. I can't imagine being any other way.
I'm an introvert and don't mind it
Zoranna · F
Introverts are so very misunderstood. 👀
SteelHands · 61-69, M
I wouldn't want to ba a vert of any kind.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Zoranna It's easy though for me to be the one that initially prompts a conversation with even immediate strangers. And do that while both need to be aware that it doesn't mean friendships don't take considerable time to cultivate. It isn't wise in my experience to have too many friendships. Even so, life has enough challenges and time limits that I'm selective about who and when I spend my limited time seeking or being prevailed on to social pastimes.

I also carry out a strategy of keeping to myself mostly and playing the introvert among overly talkative neighbors. This because we all eventually learn that there's no worse thing than to find you've become acquainted with a problematic neighbor. And it's always the gabby ones. Lol
Zoranna · F
@SteelHands You iniate conversations, that's admirable and good for you, but by the same token you don't want any new friendships? That confuses me. Why would you do it in the first place? Can't you just wave, there's no need to strike up a conversation.

Friendships do need time to cultivate but I wouldn't even drean of talking to, never mind having a conversation with my neighbour across the road simply because he waved at me and acknowledged me: we're only neighbours being polite to each other.

Thank you for answering. Cheers.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@Zoranna lol..awkward.

I'll try that. Walk up to a merchant I see every week or someone I sit beside for hours during a connecting flight somewhere. Just wave silently in their face.

I'll tell them if they ask why I'm doing that it's cause @Zoranna told me to. I'm sure they'll ask who is @Zoranna and I'll have to just start waving again. Lol

Yeah cheers! 😂
midnightsun · 26-30, M
I'd rather be a pervert
Zoranna · F
midnightsun · 26-30, M
@Zoranna hhahah
mathsman · 70-79, M

 
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