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My boss\ friend is pregnant and having an abortion

I don't totally agree with her decision since I'm strongly against abortions. I do realize it's her body and her choice, but how do I stop myself from looking at her differently? She already feels like I'm secretly judging her.

Sorry for the serious question.

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kimmy159 · F

I always assume that it's still better than having a kid when you don't actually want one. Some parents ruin the lives of their kids and scar them forever when they didn't want any to begin with.
I can also understand why adoption seems very weird too. Everyone in your environment is going to know you had a kid if you carried it. And knowing you have a kid and you gave it to someone else, I don't think I could do that either.

That being said, I still think it's quite irresponsible to get pregnant when you're not planning on having a kid. These days, there should be ways enough to prevent one.

MessieNessie · 36-40, F

Yea it is. Accidents do happen.@kimmy159

kimmy159 · F

@MessieNessie Yeah but I wonder how much of an accident it really is in that case instead of it being uncareful or something like that.
Still, if it is an accident and she decides it's better not to have a kid, I still respect that decision more than trying to raise one badly ;p

talktome2day

@kimmy159 Yeah, but it's not about the mother it's about the baby giving them a chance to live. How do you know if that baby can be a doctor in the future ,and save peoples lives, or be someone very important;we will never know if the mother kills the baby, because of her own selfishness.. it's all about sacrificing for the baby, and not for yourself.

kimmy159 · F

@talktome2day Some people are very bad at making sacrifices, that's nowhere near fair towards the baby either.
Also, it's not fair to overvalue something that hasn't even gotten a concience yet. As long as there isn't any form of concience yet, I personally wouldn't feel guilty.

People are good at overdramatizing things, nature is even more cruel than we are. Spontaneous abortions happen too even after 3 months of carrying, there's no use in overthinking those either.

I know that doesn't match with your ideas, so I think further discussion on this is pretty pointless ^^ I respect both opinions.

talktome2day

@kimmy159 I believe once anyone conceives a child that is a living human being! It doesn't matter about consciousness it still has a heart beat! And A Soul!!!!