How would you feel/ react if
Someone looked at your crush's pic and said, "he has 0 fashion sense. He looks like he's just walked out of bed?"
26-30, F
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Heretodaygonetomorrow · 26-30, F
@sspec I just smiled... she's probably right...fashion is not his strongest point, but then again, I too am a pretty shabby dresser. I did feel a bit affronted but didn't show it. :) there was no need to make a fuss!
@Heretodaygonetomorrow 🙂 How are things at your end?
Heretodaygonetomorrow · 26-30, F
@sspec things are good! My food business idea didn't really take off. When we asked people around, did a bit of research, calculated the profits.... it really wasn't making much sense, so I chucked that plan. Working on plan B currently :)
About the crush, we are still in touch. We text almost everyday. Not constantly of course. We're still close. Let's see...
How have you been?
About the crush, we are still in touch. We text almost everyday. Not constantly of course. We're still close. Let's see...
How have you been?
Heretodaygonetomorrow · 26-30, F
This second idea seems more feasible. I need to work hard at it. Please keep me in your prayers!
About the crush, I always tell myself not to be lost in fantasies. I first want to be financially independent and then I could approach him. Or by then, life itself might take another turn. I have a lot of affection towards him. But I want to make money first. Until then, we're still going to be stuck in that weird middle ground of more than friends- less than lovers. :/
About the crush, I always tell myself not to be lost in fantasies. I first want to be financially independent and then I could approach him. Or by then, life itself might take another turn. I have a lot of affection towards him. But I want to make money first. Until then, we're still going to be stuck in that weird middle ground of more than friends- less than lovers. :/
Heretodaygonetomorrow · 26-30, F
@sspec thank you! Will share it in a while, when things have shaped up :)
Thanks again!
My reasons are 1) we both belong to the same religion. Which is a coincidence, since we are both in the minority, and finding others from the community is not too easy 2) we do connect very well. We share a good vibe, and I feel we really can relate with and understand each other. 3) when we are different, we usually can respect the other's view. 4) generally, we just are comfortable with each other. 6) his family may not be rich, but values hard work and I like that. 7) we complement each other. He is more fun loving and I am more stable and traditional. We could both borrow a bit of each other. Will be enriching for us both. 8) he is classy, well read, broad minded and intelligent.
The thing that works against us 1) he drinks and smokes, though he is trying to quit smoking. I might have to learn to look over this and see that he is much more than this. I don't know if I can bring myself to it. 2) he doesn't earn too well. But that's okay since he is only 25 and will work his way up. He is a sincere worker. But I am 24 and in a year, my parents might ask me to marry. And my parents might find the income an issue. So... that's tricky.
Thanks again!
My reasons are 1) we both belong to the same religion. Which is a coincidence, since we are both in the minority, and finding others from the community is not too easy 2) we do connect very well. We share a good vibe, and I feel we really can relate with and understand each other. 3) when we are different, we usually can respect the other's view. 4) generally, we just are comfortable with each other. 6) his family may not be rich, but values hard work and I like that. 7) we complement each other. He is more fun loving and I am more stable and traditional. We could both borrow a bit of each other. Will be enriching for us both. 8) he is classy, well read, broad minded and intelligent.
The thing that works against us 1) he drinks and smokes, though he is trying to quit smoking. I might have to learn to look over this and see that he is much more than this. I don't know if I can bring myself to it. 2) he doesn't earn too well. But that's okay since he is only 25 and will work his way up. He is a sincere worker. But I am 24 and in a year, my parents might ask me to marry. And my parents might find the income an issue. So... that's tricky.
@Heretodaygonetomorrow Need to know his reasons too once you are formally proposed.
besides, Your gears are not totally in your control. Some part remains in the hands of Karma as well. Keep putting your best in all the situations including the worst ones & accept the outcome.
🤞 🙂
besides, Your gears are not totally in your control. Some part remains in the hands of Karma as well. Keep putting your best in all the situations including the worst ones & accept the outcome.
🤞 🙂
@Heretodaygonetomorrow An add-on which I deliberately skipped in the early hours -
Respecting each other while disagreeing is an ASSET which most often easily change when two individuals start living under the same roof. Reasons could vary.
Might you like the idea of letting him join your plan B to know him better in all other fields as well. Knowing each other comes with time. More you get to spend time with each other, better it'd be to decide.
Respecting each other while disagreeing is an ASSET which most often easily change when two individuals start living under the same roof. Reasons could vary.
Might you like the idea of letting him join your plan B to know him better in all other fields as well. Knowing each other comes with time. More you get to spend time with each other, better it'd be to decide.
Heretodaygonetomorrow · 26-30, F
@sspec well... since he is still working in that company, a full time may not be possible... I will ask him about part time options if some opportunities arise. Right now, it's way too early... still in the conception stage...