how do i talk about having PTSD

@LadyGrace I've tried my uncle paul wont even talk to me

@GothicDan Aw, I’m sorry to hear that. You can talk to me. I’m not sure I could help, but I’d try.

my uncle paul wont talk to me he blames me for mu niece's death saying i wasn't fast enough to save her, i dont know what to do or coupe with it

@GothicDan That is the cruelest thing I’ve ever heard. Here’s what you do, Dan. You tell yourself the truth! Only you know the truth, Dan. Always tell yourself the truth. Isn’t it true that you did the very best you could under the circumstances? Tell yourself not what you guess might be the truth...or what someone else thinks is the truth....but what the actual truth is, and that is, you know yourself...if there had been any way possible to save your niece, you certainly would have. That’s the truth of the matter, and you know it. The truth sets you free, Dan. Not what other people think. Stay away from your uncle, if he’s going to be so abusive. You have no need to prove yourself to anyone.

@LadyGrace ive tried but i can still hear the screams

[@GothicDan. Then would you label that as guilt or would you recognize that as grief? Tell yourself the truth. That is your measuring stick from now on. Can it be guilt, if you know you did the very best you could? Your response is normal. This was so traumatic for you. It will take time to process this and heal. You mustn’t rush it. So think about this for a moment. You could play this through your head a million times. The result won’t change, because your body simply was not capable of pushing itself further. If this was a friend this happened to, what would you tell him? You’d say, “Man, don’t be so hard on yourself! It wasn’t your fault! You did your best! I’m so sorry.” Have that same compassion on yourself. You need to be there for yourself, and kind to yourself right now. Tell yourself the truth. The truth is....even though you feel guilty over what happened, nothing you could have done, would have brought about different results. That’s the sad truth, so now you can allow yourself to grieve. That is only natural after a loss. You may never forget this event, but in time you’ll learn to adjust to it day by day. However long that takes, that is up to you, but do not carry it so long that it eats you up inside. That’s when it’s not healthy. There is a time and season for everything. Decide how long that season of mourning shall be after awhile, then begin to move on.

um i dont know what to say

@GothicDan That’s ok. You don’t have to make any major decisions right now. Just think about everything I’ve said. When I had PTSD, that is what pulled me through, besides talking to my friend who had it too. Talking really helps. It’s great therapy. It allows you a sounding board and things to think about.

i will think about it and try to work things out

Yes, let it process for a while. If you need to talk then, I’m here. @GothicDan

thanks i will let you know how im feeling

Ok. I’ll be praying for you. It really makes a great difference. @GothicDan

thank you

You’re welcome. @GothicDan

i hope i can do my best to change, i cant let my brother down

??? How do you mean? @GothicDan

i have a little brother who needs me

I see. When did this accident happen with your niece? @GothicDan

last year just before Christmas