Do you think the media are promoting obesity as healthy?

I have often had this discussion with people. I ask people "if someone you really care about is dangerously overweight, what is the best way to love them 1:tell them they have a weight problem and and that you are there for them if they need help and support OR 2: tell them they look great the way they are and they should love themselves the way they are and they don't need to change" most people I've asked say 2, they give them the lie that makes them feel good and its also self serving because they appear like the " good guys". my love for someone will make me tell them what they need to hear whether they like hearing it or not and end up hating me for it, that to me is true love.

Yep. I think the media panders to overweight people. They've twisted body acceptance into bad health complacency because it pays better.

Loving yourself and feeling attractive regardless of your weight or health is fantastic! We deserve self-acceptance and respect regardless of our weight or health. But accepting yourself as you are doesn't mean not being open to change or improvement. If you love yourself you'll do what's best for your health.
Whatever the case, we have no right to treat people poorly based on their weight or health.

I say it's their life. Who cares what it's called or how we perceive it? They really don't need anyone, be it friends, family, or media imposing their views on them. Live and let live, I say.

The media are driven by viewership and will sell whatever message keeps them watching. If they're selling us unhealthy messages, its a sign that we're highly receptive to them. Everyone has to ultimately take care of themselves first, and you can't protect people from themselves no matter how hard you try. Some people will make good choices and some won't. Also, not everyone who is overweight is unhealthy, and not all weight conditions are directly caused by poor diet and overeating. Generalities be what they will, size is another prejudice by external appearance to be mindful of when getting to know a particular person. Easier said than done, I know.

Yes. It is okay to have curves and be a good weight but to say all bodies are healthy is not good. People who don't take care of themselves of course have a high risk of illnesses. It is the opposite of the 60s when Twiggy was popular but being too skinny is also as or even more dangerous.