Is it wrong to hate the mother of your children?

And again you don't know shit about that 13 years, so feel free to think that.

The right thing to do is think of your children before you open your mouth to speak or do anything else hostile in regard to the mother of your children. When children sense hostility between their parents it can affect them emotionally and that can set them up for chronic physical illnesses and emotional problems too.

You feel what you feel. There is no right and wrong about it. It is what it is. However, if you do feel hate, then try and do some introspection to find out why you do. Also, try your best not to show hate toward her because your kids will pick up on your hate, and that is not good for them. I wonder what she has done to cause such strong emotion?

@cherokeepatti I can respect that it's just very hard to accept that the woman you loved turned out to be a total piece of shit. She offers nothing as far as support and told me point blank on the phone "I ain't giving you shit".

My kids know that me and their father is a subject not to be discussed. He does enough talking by not being involved and trying to be abusive to them when he was around.

Angelogage: At this late stage in life I am raising a child who's mother never paid a dime in child support, who has not seen either of her children in over a year and a half, and who has only called once, when her boyfriend/father of this child dumped her once again and that was to cry to the child about it...I don't say anything negative at all about his mother and don't focus on the money. He has enough of a burden to carry without adults in his life talking trash about her.

@Angelogage it's bad to regret having sx with the mom if the dad loves the children

I would say rather then investing the energy into hate invest it into something more positive and let her absence speak to your kids in its own way. My father was never in my life, i have never met him... But that didnt cause my mother to speak ill of him... When i asked questions she did the best to answer with facts over feelings... Like i said if you want to talk more in depth you can message me... 😊

Never married her,she has chosen to have no part in their lives.

@cherokeepatti i guessed... You speak from wisdom that can really only be gained from being around it... At least that little angel has someone in his life who obviously cares very much... Kudos to you for being there!

It just about broke my heart last year when he told me his father was a bad man and he steals, uses drugs & has been in prison, etc....he looked at me when he was only 7 years old and asked me if he was bad too because his father was bad.

@angel I still stand on my point on hate yourself for having slept with an idiot.... but now the kids suffer because of her
so... I hate her too

@cherokeepatti The mother owes back child support and hasn't seen or spoken to her kids in over a year. Thanks for your input.

@signmeupforthat She has pretty much abandoned the children and hasn't seen them in a year. THANKS for your input though.

Thank you @cherokeepatti... No child deserves to have to be around your hatred for a bad choice of partner

It all depends on the situation... If you want to talk feel free to message

No, but it's bad to regret marrying her if that man loves the children

@hopeless no I dont know, but you still slept with him and had his kids

The kindest thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother.

hate yourself, you're the one that fucked an idiot

Im not saying living with her.. Im saying your chikdren living with you while you continue to waste good energy on your past! My 12 yos father has seen him all of once, never paid a dime of childsuport and yet i choose to be the bigger person and not bash him for being a lowlife methhead!

I have lived a messed up childhood.

@cherokeepatti unless youve lived the fucked up childhood- i dealt with it in school and with others when my mom wasnt around- you cant understand fully how that kind of environment will mess with a childs head and their self worth

If she told you that then that was the point you needed to build a bridge and get over it for your kids... Sounds like you still love who she was and thats ok. But you letting the anger for what shes become take over isnt ok at all.

And if your children continue to grow up in a house of hatred that is what they will learn rather then how to be well rounded and grounded individuals... Your choice man

It causes you to create a toxic situation for the children so yes it is wrong.

@slutginger I don't live with that waste of oxygen. Read the thread.

@hopeless well hate yourself too, you fucked an idiot too !

I despise the father of my children. So hey, it's all fair!

Ces you have no idea what my ex was like.

if you're an ahole... sure.