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The key is acknowledging that they are in fact toxic...that they bring you more darkness than light and you deserve to surround yourself with those who feed the light instead of extinguishing it. You have to allow yourself to have that because no one else can decide that for you.
The love you have for them doesn’t just disappear overnight because you decide your journey is better without them in, but over time it does fade away as Love from purer sources erases the darkness masked as love that they’ve left behind.
Focus on the light and it’ll help heal you tremendously. You can do this. Good luck ☮
The love you have for them doesn’t just disappear overnight because you decide your journey is better without them in, but over time it does fade away as Love from purer sources erases the darkness masked as love that they’ve left behind.
Focus on the light and it’ll help heal you tremendously. You can do this. Good luck ☮
AliceMortem · 31-35, F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Thank you. I needed to read this
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@AliceMortem My pleasure.
AliceMortem · 31-35, F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart I think I'm holding on to how things were when we first met. But they were far from that at the end
AlmostAnAngel · 100+, F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Exactly...worked for me.
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@AliceMortem We often times, especially with toxic people, fall in love with how they made us feel when things were good. That’s something we don’t fully realize until we’re looking back and see just how toxic a person they turned out to be. Some people lower their masks when they get comfortable and their true selves emerge, which can greatly differ from who we inially met. Other people just change over time due to a number of reasons into unsavory characters. Acknowledging that you’re holding onto the way they made you feel helps you disassociate that love to the actual person, making your healing so much easier I think.
Serenitree · F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Mine will never fade, as it is my daughter. But she is toxic. At least, she is for me. She has rage. She directs it at me, because the people she is really angry with are not available.
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@Serenitree I’m so sorry to hear that. Hers is a love that’ll always stay with you, as it should. I just wish it didn’t include such darkness :(
I’ll be sending light your way.
I’ll be sending light your way.
Serenitree · F
@PerfectionOfTheHeart Thank you. She used to be my best friend, then life happened, and she changed. Unfortunately we simply can't be in the same place together.