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We are 4 gals in our family and am the last born but mum always ignore me because am not successful than my 3 sisters!! Remember we have different fathers me and them!! I'm still staying with my aunt and I can provide for myself though I don't own big businesses, I don't drive like my sisters, but whenever I call mum she will never receive my calls, she is always like (nothing sensible I can say because am poor) I don't know what to say or do for her my hrt is melting.I went to visit her and found my elder sister at home and when ever I told to talk to mom she changes the topic and call my other sister. I gave her a gift but I found She gave it to her house maid. What should I do for her so that she can also see me as her daughter.I have always kept this has a secret all my life and keep saying to my self that she will one day love me and be proud of me.I always cry everyday she doesn't call me or text me yet she talks to my sisters all the time . Why me
insomniac · 61-69, M Best Comment
I know how much you hurt. I lived through the same kind of crap. It’s not easy but you have to realize that you can’t change your mother, and she will probably never change herself. I learned that when something sucks you need to let it suck. Don’t try to bury your sadness or deny the pain you feel inside. Let it hurt but remember that you deserve to be treated better. That might not be the most profound bit of advice you’ll ever receive, but I hope it helps a little. I hope it helps a little to know that I care too.
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@591514,insomniac] thanks for the advice

Cinderella -your the scape goat child, there's nothing you can do and it's not your fault.
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@656163,Mushroomfaerie] I really can't stop crying. Am stressed and started to hate my self
[@679338,Sarahblack] that's what happens when you don't get what every child deserves. I'm so sorry. It might help if you google daughters of narcisstic mothers, sounds like your mother has some traits at the least.
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@656163,Mushroomfaerie] thanks
GwydionFrost · 51-55, M
I spent over 40 years chasing four words from my father. To this day, I have yet to hear them, and I've been recognized and applauded by senators, congressmen, company CEOs, non-profit organizations, etc.

So, how come I can be lauded by my peers and society in general, and yet, my father cannot express "I'm proud of you"....?

I simply recognized that he was never ever going to say it, and decided that my life would be much happier if I stopped trying to live my life to impress him, and started living my life to impress ME.

That was about 10 years ago. Strangely enough, about 5 years after I did that, guess who decided that he should probably invest in the two boys he sired, and find out exactly what kinds of men they turned out to be...? (His side of the family is famous for "out of sight, out of mind" mentality... so, once we left home after graduating, we never looked back, and he didn't bother looking).

I am glad to say that my father and I are closer now than we ever were... although I've still never heard him say that. ;)
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@188267,GwydionFrost] heartbreaking
wintersecret · 41-45, M
I know it must be hard on you but you focus on your self for better and wonderful life ahead.

She will come to you oneday
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@375931,wintersecret] you are right
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That has to be a terrible feeling and I’m sure you are very hurt, but you need to focus on you take care of you... push forward a live your life the best you can... you shouldn’t have to compare your self to your sisters... sounds like you are pretty successful your self you said you provide for your self and take care of your self... that’s doing good... I wish you well..
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@612132,Scottie2Hottie] thanks for the advice
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If she would not be your mother I would suggest you to leave .. but now you can not do anything to gain her love except keep loving her probably oneday she would understand you when her materialist world would vanish before her eyes
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@441654,Popobandar] you are right
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Do you talk to your sisters ?
Sarahblack · 26-30, F
[@448576,Picklebobble2] once in a while. It's me who look for them but they don't call me once in a while we talk on watsup

 
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