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Why do men ask so many questions?

Every time I chat with a guy he starts with the questions. I feel like I'm being interrogated.
i don't think it's gender specific by any means. however i do know exactly what you mean. the people who rather than taking time to actually know someone want the whole thing up front as though you should trust a stranger you might not have even decided whether or not you want to continue corresponding with such personal details. it's all very intrusive ..

some general questions make perfect sense to ask. but people have a way of demanding a plethora of info from another person, and hardly offering any themselves, or giving vague answers but expecting the life story from you in great detail. it can be or seem a bit selfish. let me figure out whether i even click with you as a person/friend before you start trying to find out my blood type.
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@367459,DancingStarGoddess] Exactly and you said it much better than me.

It's the probing questions without even knowing me.

Thank you.
[@356832,Chloe] very welcome!
Elisbch · M
I agree with this....

" Mtwa85 41-45, M
I’m personally feel I do ask a lot of questions if I’m trying to keep the conversation going and they are not ask me any questions in return. It becomes a one sided conversation."


It's happened more than once with me. Not all women, I find/I think, are comfortable asking a lot of questions or that's just not their MO. Many like info from the guy (I think) to come more naturally thru conversation. That's fine, but does make it a bit more challenging to keep a conversation going without asking more questions. Pounding out the questions becomes uncomfortable for me as well as for her (any female I would imagine). I wouldn't like it if it were reversed.
Red500 · 41-45, M
Because if we just talk about ourselves we are told we are self absorbed
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@67525,Redbus500] That I'm bi curious. You really are wrong. I have nice chats with men all the time and sometimes things happen. Quit acting like I'm some kind of man hater.
Red500 · 41-45, M
Maybe that's why you having a tough time - you are jumping to conclusions. Like that I thought you are a man hater.
fenomen02 · 46-50, M
[@356832,Chloe] as far as I can say (and I think I can say a lot giving my long lasting chat with Chloe) she LOVES men...
SW User
Perhaps they dont know enough about the topic of conversation and are asking to increase their knowledge. However if they are being overly personal in their questions then there maybe an ulterior motive.

Personally I ask questions to get to know someone or the topic being discussed if I dont know enough about it. As going off to google mid conversation maybe construed as being rude.
gummybears · F
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Because they want to get to know you... bastards right?
gummybears · F
[@356832,Chloe] I’m not judging you, you asked I answered
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@505120,melaverde] No you said I should be quiet about how I feel. I'm not a prude either. I just don't need 20 questions to start a conversation.
gummybears · F
I didn’t say that, I said you shouldn’t talk about your body if you don’t want them to ask questions...
Do as you want, I don’t really care
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
One time I asked asked questions and was told it felt like an interview. So my final question was “why did you bother to text me if you’re an asshole?”. He blocked me. Lol
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@11509,Quietrumble] Good point. I do not message men. They message me.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
Exactly, me too...so either talk or go away and don’t waste my time. I can’t hold the convo on my own, especially if I didn’t start it.[@356832,Chloe]
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
Could be they find you interesting and want to know more. Could also be they are nosey jerks.
Bluesky53 · 56-60, M
it's called getting aquainted but it can be overdone,
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@556302,Bluesky53] I can't have a conversation. First I have to prove I'm a woman. Then if I like men or women. Then do I give head. Should I go on?
Bluesky53 · 56-60, M
[@356832,Chloe] i see what you mean,we have our limits,
Its called getting to know someone
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@1368,Nunlover] If I talk with a woman I have a conversation and the same conversation with a man becomes 20 questions and attitude when I mention the question. Just like you being a smart ass with your reply.
[@356832,Chloe] not being smart ,it's how you get to know someone
Elisbch · M
[@1368,Nunlover]... Nailed it... Its called getting to know someone...
TheSunisout · 56-60, M
He is showing interest, embrace it 😊
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@11430,thesunisout] Yes because I should give thanks that some man is interested in me?
Mtwa85 · 46-50, M
I’m personally feel I do ask a lot of questions if I’m trying to keep the conversation going and they are not ask me any questions in return. It becomes a one sided conversation
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
They sound like one of my categories!

https://similarworlds.com/8839489-I-Am-Fascinated-By-Human-Behavior/201468-Street-Rules-A-Suggested-Code-of-Conduct-for?sort=1
Trevo · 22-25, M
One needs to sound interested in you at first. You don't wanna have guys asking the real question right away 😏
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@513403,MeDescobrindo] Yes I get they are fishing.
Trevo · 22-25, M
[@356832,Chloe] there you go
Ramon67 · 56-60, M
I can’t speak for others . I ask a lot of questions so I can know a person real good . And I don’t want to get scammed .
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@331992,Ramon67] When I meed someone I just chat. With men I have to prove I'm a woman? Sorry I won't play that game.
Elisbch · M
[@356832,Chloe] when chatting with someone (suspected female) for the first time, I have "never" required a woman to "prove" she's a woman It usually becomes pretty evident fairly soon that she is what she says she is. My gut instincts are seldom wrong. Why be rude when a little patience and being kind to one another brings much more satisfying results for both parties. If they get rude with you, you have choices.
frequentlyme · 70-79, M
Do you mean if you are on something like a date, or in general conversation/messaging?
plankter979 · 46-50, M
how would you prefer a conversation went?
Chloe · 31-35, F
[@569869,plankter979] Like a conversation. Questions are fine but maybe try to give some information without just asking one question after another.

Maybe like "So what kind of food do you like?" "Me I like pasta."

Give a bit of information not just ask over and over.
plankter979 · 46-50, M
oh definitely...so you mean it's not a 2 way street? When i ask a question I usually put it in the context of my own answer to that question...
LyricalOne · F
I really wouldn’t call that a gender specific trait.
fenomen02 · 46-50, M
mmmm.... I think I have read this before! LOL
Mastermadman · 56-60, M
So let me ask lol how bored are you?
SW User
should be annoying

 
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