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I have a friend who calls everything mansplaining.

From conversations to media to video games...most of the time she's flat out wrong so I feel like I have to point out "But that's not mansplaining..." she always responds "But it is" then either walks off or abruptly changes the subject.

It's infuriating, at best 😒

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MsAnnThropy

I usually use that term when guys try to explain how a woman’s body works or basically anything related to women.

QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M

@MsAnnThropy Tbh, many women are strikingly uninformed. From outsized fears of toxic shock syndrome, to not knowing how to determine their bra size, or what to do if you forget to take a birth control pill - I've had to do a lot of female-centric education in my life and relationships.

It's not mansplaining when you're actually right.

KneAuxBody

@QuixoticSoul Ha! Dude! I've been there!!

Recently the question of "big" or visible labia and their intrinsic ugliness/beauty came up, with (to me), unfounded emphasis mostly towards the "ugly"!

So I had to, aswage tears and negative self worth, go look this up and find and read a published study that explains mainly that 50% show and 50% don't show! There were charts with actual measurements, demographic distribution, descriptive comments, etc.

Pretty much there's that general average look, with exceptions and genetic variations as typical in any personal feature such as lips, eyes, earlobes, noses, hair fingers, toes.

And of course there's a typical bell curve of dislike, happiness and acceptance all pretty much like how guys view themselves in the same region!

God! Then came the Mansplaining!!!
60+ pages down to 3 sentences.
But Hey! No more tears!

QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M

@KneAuxBody Bwahaha. Tbh I'm surprised that the "innie" contingent is actually a full 50% - it seems like less than that - but both are perfectly normal, and there is indeed a ton of variation. Most importantly... that stuff doesn't change with the amount of sex or the number of partners a woman has had. That there is a true WTF piece of /r/badwomenanatomy fodder, and yet is strikingly pervasive.

All of that stuff is just fashion really - in this case, porn fashion. That's the sort of thing that leads to people thinking that boobs looked differently in the 80s. No, they didn't, those are just the ones people decided to film because the look was "in". Distribution in media is not a guide to reality, it's a carefully selected sample.

KneAuxBody

@QuixoticSoul the real "innies" were probably ⅓ whereas beyond that the "outties" then "come into view" shall we say 😉?

The participants were to stand typically and report the "view" / personal observation. I believe then to lay and make measurements.
Beyond that, I didn't dwell on the procedures.

"Just the Facts Ma'am!"🕵