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How many kids do you plan on having?

I don't understand the people that don't want to have any, because first of all as much as they are a pain, they are what completes your lives, also they are entertainment to some degree. Moreover with the rate of divorces on the rise, imagine you get divorced at 40, what do you do then? you'll practically have nobody in your life to give you unconditional love. Your parents have their own lives and your friends, they're fine for going out like twice a week, but they will have their own families to go back home.
So think about that.

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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

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alright after reading all this there I gotta repsond.
What would you do without kids?
What you do now without kids!
You spend time with your friends yeah not every week.
You spend time on your own ( many enjoy that ) a little with parents, siblings etc then you got this big chunk of time to spend with that person you wanted to spend so much time with in the first place. They are your best friend and now you get them all the time. All that money saved from having to feed, cloth, care for kids. You spend it on experiences not stuff. Travel and memories. There is so much to see and do. Not having any kids is not for everyone and many have had their lives enriched with children. Kids rock. But those without will have lots to do and have happy lives too. Having and not having neither is a winner. No one is in competition with each others choices in life. We can be different and be happy and respect another's choice instead of telling them they are wrong for not doing what we might do. That'd be just dumb. The number is possibly none maybe one.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit is that zero to one? or zero or minus one?))

Stark

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit I agree, people don’t realize but kids take up a lot of time and money. When you have them you should be prepared to have them a lot of people can’t do nearly as much when they have kids as before, it can be stressful and put a strain on your relationship if not planned right. It’s not just playing house 😆 not to say kids aren’t great and that they’re a huge mistake, I’m sure they bring a lot of joy to families but they are definitely NOT for everyone and you don’t need kids to define your life or make it better you do that on your own.

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

@Stark Well put and http://fortune.com/2016/05/09/mothers-marriage-parenthood/ this article is an interesting read as well.
Many admit to being less happy after families are made than before. There is new joys for certain and I don't claim a single parent would or should regret having those little hair balls. Just that we can make other choices. Whatever we choose we live with 💖

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit I'm not talking about competition, I'm just saying that maybe some don't want any children at the moment, but with time they might realize that they wish they did. Though the more u advance in age the harder it would be to make a healthy baby. Also please don't make just one, they usually are really lonely growing up. You touched the money issue, so I guess you decide.

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

@Dan193 And that is perfectly fine too we are allowed to change our minds but if ya have a kid and decide whoops not for me the kids suffers too.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit That's true, though I find it hard to imagine

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

@Dan193 You find it hard to imagine those that regret the kid after, the kid would suffer?

Stark

@Dan193 I’m an only child and I was never lonely growing up. 🤔 where are you getting your research from? And actually men can make healthy children to a pretty decent age and women can have them in a mature age as well usually a great age range where they have a stabled income and better home environment than younger. It doesn’t make sense to rush and have them simply because you’re in fear you won’t be able to when you get older ? Plenty of mature in age people have children. If you don’t want any children at the moment and want some later that’s perfectly fine.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

@Stark Just my cousins and friends that were an only child told me that they would have rather had a brother or a sister growing up, plus it was much fun for me, I imagine, having my sister. About conceiving at an older age, that's actually a medical fact that children are more prone to birth diseases the older the parents are.