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TheresaA · 56-60, F
Feelings can’t be controlled. If you try to put some space between you, it’s not going to work. You’ll still think about her all the time to the point it will drive you nuts! On top of that you’ll leave her wondering, “What happened? I thought things were going so well. I thought he liked me.” Just let it happen. Do you know how she feels? Falling in love can feel amazing but scary if you’re unsure of her feelings and fear rejection.
Carla1951 · 70-79, F
I feel you haven't yet decided if this is LOVE or Infatuation.
How to slow it down? Stop what you're doing and try to be more practical. Plasma, You are not in control. IF and I say IF you continue this pace you can only become MORE confused.
Love doesn't happen that way. For now you are enjoying this escape into the clouds. If you want to stop this feeling, go to places you know she wont be there. A great deal of what you feel is "Infatuation" It will pass. Most of all she doesn't share your feelings. She is intrigued. A man like you showing her attention. If you the SPIDER were to catch your pry it would be smothered within moments!
Move on. Find a new crowd. Your next day off take a stroll in a nature park. Watch your surroundings. Use your senses. Smell the AIR.
Let her come to you. If she doesn't, then you will have missed the pain and the tears she may have brought. Love grows slowly. That is the only way one can have TRUE LOVE. If it comes in too fast, It will also leave and melt into a puddle. You are moving far too fast and you are thus creating your own pain.
Try and begin a healthy chat. Mention the current weather; Ask her questions. See if anything at all matches up with your own personality.
You do not need to begin a relationship in thought of MAYBE...MAYBE this is love!
How to slow it down? Stop what you're doing and try to be more practical. Plasma, You are not in control. IF and I say IF you continue this pace you can only become MORE confused.
Love doesn't happen that way. For now you are enjoying this escape into the clouds. If you want to stop this feeling, go to places you know she wont be there. A great deal of what you feel is "Infatuation" It will pass. Most of all she doesn't share your feelings. She is intrigued. A man like you showing her attention. If you the SPIDER were to catch your pry it would be smothered within moments!
Move on. Find a new crowd. Your next day off take a stroll in a nature park. Watch your surroundings. Use your senses. Smell the AIR.
Let her come to you. If she doesn't, then you will have missed the pain and the tears she may have brought. Love grows slowly. That is the only way one can have TRUE LOVE. If it comes in too fast, It will also leave and melt into a puddle. You are moving far too fast and you are thus creating your own pain.
Try and begin a healthy chat. Mention the current weather; Ask her questions. See if anything at all matches up with your own personality.
You do not need to begin a relationship in thought of MAYBE...MAYBE this is love!
Liquidplasma · 46-50, M
@Carla1951 it’s been months we are seeing each other not a first date 😉 We can chit chat about anything without ever trying ,and we also can sit/drive quietly without saying a word as long as we are together.The reason I’m mentioning love for ME I’ve never felt this way about anyone.All my other relationships after a weekend date ,when I’d get home if would be like ( eh some alone time ) even though it went well.With her it wasn’t that ,I didn’t want her to go .
I also do things I never usually do/did with any girl I’ve been with.When we sleep we are all inter twiened, I always push the girl gentle to the side as I feel suffocated when someone sleeps on me.I constantly look into her eyes (not me usually).
The good news I guess , is she is always touching me or kissing me in some way as well .Long story short as I could keep going on about this , but in my 40 years on this planet : nobody has ever made me feel this way ,nobody! And I’ve been around the block if you know what I mean ? I’m not a hermit so feelings of lust been there done that .You are correct though , if she doesn’t feel this was of course it will be painful but at least I’ll have her for the time she will give me right? Better than not having her at all?
I also do things I never usually do/did with any girl I’ve been with.When we sleep we are all inter twiened, I always push the girl gentle to the side as I feel suffocated when someone sleeps on me.I constantly look into her eyes (not me usually).
The good news I guess , is she is always touching me or kissing me in some way as well .Long story short as I could keep going on about this , but in my 40 years on this planet : nobody has ever made me feel this way ,nobody! And I’ve been around the block if you know what I mean ? I’m not a hermit so feelings of lust been there done that .You are correct though , if she doesn’t feel this was of course it will be painful but at least I’ll have her for the time she will give me right? Better than not having her at all?
Sweet517 · 51-55, F
Not even sure why you would want to slow it down but getting away from the person can give you some perspective. You do risk losing her if you take this route, however. Good luck🤗
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Ask her how she feels, then take it from there.
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You can't slow it down 😉