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It doesn't exist. People are slaves to their emotions, they just can't stand anything that goes against their personal belief and self-interest. So, looking for something that doesn't exist, would only lead to annoyance and depression. It may find you sometimes, but then you'd lose it under certain circumstances as nothing is permanent. You have to do the journey of life alone, live collectively, or at least pretend. That's the gist of survival in the modern world.
maybesomeday · 31-35, F
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@maybesomeday People are too much self-absorbed. You'd lose your individualism if you want to be fit in. They will only like you if you are their way. There's nothing like your type of people. No two person are equal, our finger prints and genetic code differs, so there's no way to find similarities in others. There's no perfect-partner concept. The idea is to reconcile with differences, and compromise on certain things, be tolerant and help each other get better, but it has to work from both ends, which is close to non-existent in this world we live in. If that happens, then you are lucky, till then its just hit and miss the game. I have played that a lot, and I'm sick of it now. I really don't need a second person now. I have had amazing girls in my life, but then life's situations couldn't keep up together. We still cherish the moments we lived. Nothing is forever, so making peace with ourselves is the first step to make peace with others. I'm working on it.
maybesomeday · 31-35, F
@SW-User I've never wanted to fit in, and even if I tried I would fail miserably at it anyway. But I always had some hope that it was possible to meet like-minded people, people who were after a meaningful and long-lasting connection. Unfortunately, that's not been the case. And when I realised this, I tried to befriend people who weren't entirely similar to me, thinking that's maybe what was best. But still failed to meet anyone after the same things in the end. I probably take things too seriously, and think that there would be someone out there who would as well, but I suppose there isn't. So yes, maybe I just need to accept that all I have is myself and if I can come to terms with that, maybe then I won't feel this strong desire to keep trying to find friends to travel through life with. I'll travel alone.
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@maybesomeday Your heart is in the right place, and you are a thinking person, that's why you know the difference between right and wrong. Trust me, I'm the same way, and people like us go through some horrible internal struggle, but there will be a lot of peace in between those struggles. You won't end up being miserable. When the whole world goes drinking on Friday evening, I lift weights. Yes, I'm boring, but when they ask me the reason for my 6 pack and healthy body and happy mind, my answer doesn't convince them, because they are too much obsessed with the easy things that they consider as fun. This is a rock-bottom stupid era we are living in where most of them are into instant gratification and don't want to work on anything at all.