i don't tend to DM anyone first. it's incredibly rare, but i usually like it if they ask. it feels better than someone just kind of pretending they have one random question or something and then manipulating the question into trapping me in my DMs or some shit.
i can admit i ignore about 98% of dms bc they're weird (not in the fun or good way) or simply because they lack personality. But if someone just wants to have a chat, that's cool. i'm not gonna bite or kill them for it. 🤷🏿