Have you ever thought about your conversation style and your intent?

When engaged in conversation with someone, do you really listen to what is being said to understand the other person, or do you listen with the intent of having a quick answer or just to tell your own story? There is such a difference in someone who is genuine and someone who simply wants to hear themselves talk.

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Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

I'm not good at lengthy conversations.
Tend to be short and direct.
It's somewhat a handicap,I suppose.
I am polite and try to listen.
I rarely tell people my own problems, when I have they don't seem very interested.
Sometimes, I think people look for admiration for unadmireable behavior or permission of a sort by way of validation ,not really interested in your opinion even when asked.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Justmeraeagain I enjoyed lengthy, deep conversations once upon a time. I guess I've lost my desire for that. I find that when people know you too well, they have the power to hurt you to a great degree. I am no longer interested in taking that risk. I have also spoken to some who simply like to hear themselves talk or are seeking superficial validation for themselves. I no longer have the patience for that either.

in10RjFox · M

@LadyBronte it happens when conversation is not picked up by the other and one has to keep the conversation going. How good are you in responding? Game gets interesting only when the volley is good.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@in10RjFox When I had interest, the conversations were good. Now, with the exception of a few friends, I find it difficult to care and responses are nearly nonexistent.