I'm 43 and I still can't drive, seems like I never will

I'm 43 and I still can't drive, seems like I never will. People call me lazy for being 43 and not driving.I received over 30 hours of driving lessons in 2003 , on an automatic car, and I sucked so much the driving teachers had to rotate with each other for each session, as I "stressed them out" (they may have feared for their life too, now that I think about it) , so I stopped. The faces the instructors made were not only discouraging, but desperate. And I felt worse every day, because I never progressed in classes, I made the same mistakes.

I don't see the point in trying again. I feel like I would be a real danger on the road, so it's better for anyone if I just don't. My boyfriend and my employees are driving me around or i am using an uber. I think it’s for the better I don’t wanna be a danger for others.

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SomeMichGuy · M

Did you ever use a riding lawnmower as a kid, or anything to steer?

LaLa81 · 41-45, F

@SomeMichGuy no. It sucks but at least I have my boyfriend and my employees to help. Without them I see Uber to get to my appointments and delivery for food/groceries.

SomeMichGuy · M

@LaLa81 I think some base level experience like that really helps.

There was a girl in my high school driver's ed class who, like you, had also never used a riding lawnmower, had her dad or mom let her steer a vehicle in an empty parking lot--nothing.

She really scared us (the teacher, a big bear of a guy who also taught gym/PE, and the rest of students in her group) and nearly wrecked the vehicle without being out on the road.

Bottom line,
I view it like working with electricity:
if you are afraid of it, just do NOT do it;
leave it to someone else.

So, while I think you COULD drive, I commend you for being able to see that you are not ready for doing it. Not everyone can be that clear-headed; it takes sober judgment and actual maturity.

LaLa81 · 41-45, F

@SomeMichGuy It seems so difficult. I know people who have got their license just after taking lessons, once.

SomeMichGuy · M

@LaLa81 All except two in my particular group did. That girl was expelled, and a boy who was driving but was unable to pass the written work...