If you walked by a random person seated on a bench, and noticed them crying, would you…

@Axelerator Do you listen? Or do you offer advice? Do you call them a cop out?

@DesertFlower Well I’d obviously listen first, and then maybe offer advice, if I thought it would be helpful to them.

Hmmm strange, are you indirectly offended about the one time I used that term on this site?
On a recent post where someone was justifying leaving their children behind because of poor logic and self pity.
That was a cop out, even if that sounds offensive.
I can sympathize a great deal with someone suffering and wanting to end themselves, but that doesn’t mean it’s always right or justified. And I’m not going to lie to someone considering it, just to spare their feelings.

You know what they say about assuming right?

@Axelerator did you not assume they were coping out? Did you try to understand?

I observe a lot.

I see very hurt people in this world and on this site, I see how people react to them. I try to understand why someone is so hurt and why someone would assume the worst of them without even knowing what they’ve been through.

I am trying to understand human nature. And what I observe is that people say they are kind and they care, but in practice, your judgment hits the person long before your kind intentions. Many people are that way.

I am trying to understand what it’s like for people to be who they are, not who I think they should be.