Is it rude to register for wedding gifts if you aren't having a reception?

I'm going to a friend's wedding and they've opted out of a reception. They have however decided to register for gifts. It's also not the first time they've been married.

I have my thoughts on this, but curious about what others think.

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JustNik · 51-55, F

This probably sounds snarkier than I mean it, but is it rude to think a couple needs to pay you back for a gift by throwing you a party? Is it possible they registered because some folks had expressed a desire to get them a gift and asked what they would like? If it were my friend, I’d want to get them a little something even if it were marriage number five. lol Lots of people do things we ourselves might not choose to do, for reasons we might not know or understand, but to me, that doesn’t necessarily make it rude, particularly when you’re not actually obligated to do anything more than you feel appropriate. 🤷‍♀️

Prttylttlthng · 46-50, F

@JustNik I see your point, and my thought (again only my opinion) in that sense is if you can’t afford it, then don’t have a large wedding. Get married in a small ceremony and invite close friends and families. Then do an announcement and whomever can send gifts. Don’t make all of us sit through a ceremony in the middle of the day. I probably sound snarkier than intended as well :).