The worst thing to say is “ I know what you’re going through “
Usually that is unhelpful BS
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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
It's debatable isn't it.. as each person is going to see it differently..
We are told that most empathic is .. "me too, you are not alone" but to me, that seems very much like 'I know what you are going through' and as someone else said, we can't really know..
Apparently, I am so sorry you are going through that - is deemed insulting because it seems like we are feeling sorry for them'
Apparently, "I can't imagine what you are going through right now" is also considered a no no as it makes them feel alone and again that we feel pity for them..
So really, I am betting it's pretty much impossible to get it right most of the time.. that's probably why some people avoid saying anything..
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We are told that most empathic is .. "me too, you are not alone" but to me, that seems very much like 'I know what you are going through' and as someone else said, we can't really know..
Apparently, I am so sorry you are going through that - is deemed insulting because it seems like we are feeling sorry for them'
Apparently, "I can't imagine what you are going through right now" is also considered a no no as it makes them feel alone and again that we feel pity for them..
So really, I am betting it's pretty much impossible to get it right most of the time.. that's probably why some people avoid saying anything..
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