Can people do nice things without being jerks?

I have one buddy who has been a lot of help, but he’s also really bossy and grumpy. He helped yesterday and I appreciate it but I also get tired of people acting like I’m dumb. And I keep telling him I’m gonna sell the house but he talks like we’re gonna be here forever. Like he isn’t hearing me and keeps telling me what to do. I kinda don’t want to be friends with him. He’s so controlling but like dude you have no power over me.