Are you flying solo this V day ?

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Solo

Ball and chain

Booty call

Date

ONS ing it up.

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Don’t seek romance, seek partnership. I always try to picture them as partners first.

So, worked on Vday today, and a couple of coworkers decided to dog me for being single.

Yet their husbands/partners are abusive, liars, flirts, cheaters, gamblers, or deadbeats, or, crack addicts and potheads.

Funny.

Yes, I envy you your valentine.

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Kodel · 26-30, M

I disagree. I would not seek out a partner if their was no romance involved. I'm not on board for an aromantic relationship. I don't want a friendship masquerading as a relationship. That's my personal opinion.

You definitely should not be belittled by your coworkers for being single. Whether that's your choice or not, it has nothing to do with them.

And sadly some of the men out there most likely had their "Valentines" leave them, abuse them, cheat on them, invalidate them, manipulate them, shame them, or potentially incriminate them.
Abuse is pretty even across the board.

My advice is to seek what you truly desire. If you want an aromantic partnership I.E. friendship, go for it. If you want passionate romance, go for it. If you want to be a bachelor/bachelorette, go for it.
Be who you want to be and pursue the kind of connection you know you thrive on or that you desire from the bottom of your heart.

Umile · 41-45, F

@Kodel Well said. Let me clarify. I guess I want the qualities of a good partner before romance/sex.

Havesomefun2 · 56-60, M

@Umile don’t forget the sense of humour

Kodel · 26-30, M

@Umile That makes a lot more sense to me. If anything, that method of conduct is the healthiest. Sex should be treasured like love. The fact you want the connection beforehand makes you all the more valuable and also makes it so your experience will be so much better for it, in my opinion. 🙂

Umile · 41-45, F

@Havesomefun2 yes. Of course. 👌

Umile · 41-45, F

@Kodel 🙏