If you message someone in a disrespectful manner then you forgo the right to respect in return. If you make a grossly inappropriate approach to somebody they have every right to humiliate you. Too many people online act decent in the main forum and like depraved weirdos in private messages. I would certainly agree that humiliation is not appropriate for a genuine approach by somebody. However, if the approach is one of unsolicited sexual messaging or of verbal abuse then all bets are off and humiliation is valid.
Eidolon · M
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I fully agree... there's a difference between a genuine approach and outright harassment. Nobody should have to tolerate unsolicited sexual messages or abuse, and we have every right to call out such behaviour.
It's one thing about exposing misconduct to protect others, and another about not exposing someone purely for public ridicule.
There's a difference between holding someone accountable and humiliating them for entertainment.
Someone else's lack of decency doesn't have to dictate our own.
Humiliating people publicly is a form a bullying entirely on it's own.
I fully agree... there's a difference between a genuine approach and outright harassment. Nobody should have to tolerate unsolicited sexual messages or abuse, and we have every right to call out such behaviour.
It's one thing about exposing misconduct to protect others, and another about not exposing someone purely for public ridicule.
There's a difference between holding someone accountable and humiliating them for entertainment.
Someone else's lack of decency doesn't have to dictate our own.
Humiliating people publicly is a form a bullying entirely on it's own.
@Eidolon If someone approaches with respect and decency then I agree that they don't deserve humiliation and it's rare that I've ever seen that happen on here. If they approach in a grossly inappropriate manner then I have no sympathy for them and I'm fine with them being humiliated. There should be no safe haven for disgusting behaviour and harassment is worthy of ridicule. There is a rule that protects members anyway. You are not allowed to post negatively about a named member. If you post a private message you have to blank out the username.
Fertilization · 36-40, F
Honestly, I think we sometimes give these things far more importance than they deserve. It’s a virtual world, and you’re bound to encounter all kinds of people and messages here. Not every inappropriate message needs a public post, a complaint, or an audience. Sometimes, the simplest response is to ignore, block, and move on with your life. Why give a random stranger so much of your time and energy? The internet is full of all kinds of people; you can’t control what others do, but you can choose what deserves your attention. Not everything deserves a reaction, let alone a public discussion.
Caleidoscope · F