I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

I've met someone. Finally. Like really met someone and just clicked on so many levels. But I don't know if I want or know how to let them in. It's not been that long since we started talking. But still I'm scared he'll see me and crush me even more. I can't ignore this pain inside that screams at me to run away. The pain is not worth it. Its not better to have loved and lost after all.

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Prisoner69 · 26-30, M

It's a paradox.

Giving up control gives you more power than you could imagine.

Give up trying to control and bring selective

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@Prisoner69 How do you protect yourself then? How do you stop yourself from being hurt again?

Prisoner69 · 26-30, M

@PandorasBox vulnerability is power.

Making yourself vulnerable takes a mindset where you're 100% okay with whatever the other person thinks about you

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@Prisoner69 I get that. But what if that thought makes them leave you?

Prisoner69 · 26-30, M

@PandorasBox good .

Then you really need them in your life?

You want impress or deal with everyone. Not even 50%. Not even 20% either.

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

Would you accept someone who is broken? I guess I'm somewhat scared that this is my only chance at happiness. It's taken so long to get this far.

Prisoner69 · 26-30, M

@PandorasBox you are asking s specific solution to a problem. I don't know you well enough to provide that

PandorasBox · 31-35, F

@Prisoner69 that's ok. But I would like to thank you for helping me work that out.