I Am Very Selective When It Comes to Letting People Get Close

Not everyone has the same heart as I do, and having had my heart broken beyond belief I have learned to be more cautious in my attempt to protect it. Especially concerning men. Bad memories, hurtful words and betrayal have made me more careful about who I let into my life and how I get to know them. Because many people simply don't deserve my trust. Finding ones who stay loyal, have your back and keep your secrets is becoming more rare. Why is this? My thoughts, feelings, heartbreaks and dreams may not mean as much to someone else, even if they pretend it does. Some know what it means to be great friends and genuinely care while others only care about themselves. Online, I am sure this is even more of a problem which is why no one needs to know that much about me. Sharing your personal life with so many people is a big risk, but it's fine to be a little cynical and it's okay to not be too trusting. It just means being extra careful about those I let into my life and heart.

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Highonheels · 51-55, M

I think people come into our lives for a reason and they also leave for a reason but sometimes it’s hard to see them go that is the hard part and sometimes it breaks our heat and we just wanna give up on love but if you completely close yourself off you’ll never meet another untill you learn to open yourself up again and sometimes it’s a long , hard lesson to learn.

Sylverlady · 51-55, F

@Highonheels I threw myself into work, interests, just to close myself off from the possible emotion attachment which could come from developing new relationships. On bitten, twice shy as they say. But I sometimes feel that if I did meet someone, perhaps the timing would be right and I would think differently about having a partner again. But it takes time to get to know people and who says we have to rush? But this is one of the problems, some of us rush into friendships/relationships often due to loneliness without thinking it through. I can't ever promise myself not to make the same mistake, but in the end isn't life and love full of chances we ought to risk taking?

Highonheels · 51-55, M

I don’t really believe in the timing being right I think it’s just when your ready to put yourself out here again and take the risk , every friendship / relationship is a risk that we take with our hearts and our minds , there’s no guarantee that it will last people come and go in our lives and we just have to be strong and believe that when we’re ready god will bring someone else into our life and present to us with another challenge , you see each relationship we get into is a challenge a trial if you will and we can either accept the challenge or deny it , it’s our free will that gives us that choice but if you accept it you have to take the good with the bad there’s always gonna be ups and downs in any relationship posative traits and negative traits , strengths and flaws it’s all in how we deal with those things , and sometimes the other person just can’t deal with some aspects of the relationship and has to leave and while it may be heartbreaking it’s a lesson we learn in this life and we must summon the strength to try again in time when we feel we’re ready.