I always lose everything i dont wanna lose

i made a new online friend not even a month ago, but i already love him so much, hes the purest person ive ever met in my entire life, im grew extremely attached to him, but now some things happened and he's gonna deactivate, dont know if hes making a new account but the thought of losing him is making me so depressed, ive been crying nonstop for 3 days already. it hurts so much

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OogieBoogie · F

Dont use other people to depend upon your happiness - its psychologically destructive.

I know it sounds counter productive - but its the truth .
If your happiness is because of them - then it means you'll do the same in a relationship, and that makes your happiness, their responsibility.
Which isnt fair.

Losing someone is sad, yes. But your level of emotional response is a warning sign.

Perhaps too much heart for others and not enough for yourself?

Sorry.

I know im harsh.....but this is a truth you dont want to learn too late 🫤

marimarie · 22-25, F

@OogieBoogie i dont let it show tho, i dont tell him or the others about this, everyone else is pretty sad too but i feel like im the one whos struggling to deal with it the most. He's upset about some stuff that happened to him, he was forced to quit, still there but will deactivate soon and that hurts so much. Idk why im so attached, ive never gotten this attached to somebody before, it happened so fast too. He changed my point of view in so many ways (for the better), he motivates me by simply being there but he doesnt know it. I dont even wanna go to class anymore bc of all this, it's pretty bad

OogieBoogie · F

@marimarie ahh. That's terrible.

But you cant let a person's presence, or lack of, dictate your life, or your passion for it.

You emd up hurting yourself, for your own feelings 🤷‍♀

marimarie · 22-25, F

@OogieBoogie i know :( i just dont want him to leave, the thought of the possibility of never seeing him again makes me so anxious i start crying all over again

OogieBoogie · F

@marimarie the future isnt set in stone.
You dont know what it will bring.

Dont worry about the stuff you cant control .
Its pointless 🤷‍♀

Focus on the gift that you did get to know him.

People dont stay in your life forever.

marimarie · 22-25, F

@OogieBoogie Hopefully he'll come back

OogieBoogie · F

@marimarie i need to add an apology.

Im very sorry i went into 'wisdom' mode, instead of actually caring about the saddness you are going through.

You are right - it does hurt when someone loved, leaves.
And i should have empathised with that and your pain.

I truly hope you can find life enough to fill the void he leaves behind and your sorrow abates...
...or that he re-enters your life in the future.

Again...im sorry
💚💜

marimarie · 22-25, F

@OogieBoogie Noo youre good dont worry! I appreciate you trying to knock some sense into me lol it's okay you dont have to apologize <3 but yeah i hope he comes back or changes his mind about leaving :' )