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Maybe it’s like “every journey begins with one step”.
Try starting with one or two words
Try starting with one or two words
Casheyane · 31-35, F
@Ghostinthemachine I want a friend.
@Casheyane You should have one. What’s stopping you?
Casheyane · 31-35, F
@Ghostinthemachine The quality of what is offered.
Casheyane · 31-35, F
@Ghostinthemachine Isn't the funny thing? That when you meet someone, the thing they ask is what they can get and not what they can give.
It's like the very start of it is a whole lot of selfishness with intentions of taking for grabs. It isn't what I want.
I just want a friendship where people could walk together and touch each other's lives, be there at the right time, at the right place, and stick to the heart like glue.
I already experienced friendships that were about what one offers. They are the exact reasons I am so much more selective now.
It's like the very start of it is a whole lot of selfishness with intentions of taking for grabs. It isn't what I want.
I just want a friendship where people could walk together and touch each other's lives, be there at the right time, at the right place, and stick to the heart like glue.
I already experienced friendships that were about what one offers. They are the exact reasons I am so much more selective now.
@Casheyane I think any friendship is about a balance of give and take, to simplify things. Too much of one or the other by one person, and everything is out of balance, and someone is left dissatisfied
Casheyane · 31-35, F
@Ghostinthemachine I was the child who wanted to be someone's friend because I thought I could make that person smile.
Then growing up, yeah, suddenly it becomes give and take. But people only mean to stay for as long as they can get something out of it. And when reality changes, they leave.
Balance is a not thing that would always be there. Not in any relationship. But willingness to keep being part of something and treating someone with care. I don't think it's just friendship, but all forms of relationships that need that. That is the kind of thing that only happens when actual real love walks in.
Then growing up, yeah, suddenly it becomes give and take. But people only mean to stay for as long as they can get something out of it. And when reality changes, they leave.
Balance is a not thing that would always be there. Not in any relationship. But willingness to keep being part of something and treating someone with care. I don't think it's just friendship, but all forms of relationships that need that. That is the kind of thing that only happens when actual real love walks in.
@Casheyane I don’t approach a friendship with the thought “hmm I wonder what I can get out of this”
All of them happen organically, naturally.
The more you get to know someone, the more you realize if your interest align or not.
I have my sports friends, my movie friends, my work friends, my school friends. Sometimes these worlds collide, but mostly they are compartmentalized by interests.
All of them happen organically, naturally.
The more you get to know someone, the more you realize if your interest align or not.
I have my sports friends, my movie friends, my work friends, my school friends. Sometimes these worlds collide, but mostly they are compartmentalized by interests.