Anyone know why it’s so hard to make friends?
I am generally speaking of in person friends.. but it also applies virtually?
26-30, F
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CynicalSpaceMan · 26-30, M
There are virtually no third spaces (places that arent work or home) which is where things like friendships flourish best.
Technically cafes, book stores, and gyms count as third spaces. Issue is, these are all places of business. They aren't work for you but they are work for someone. Meaning:
Hours are not flexible
Interactions between people are not the priority; profit is and so:
"Loitering" (just existing without spending money) is not generally acceptable.
So, at least to me, that makes me see them as not true third spaces.
And then on top of the decline of third spaces you have the fact that we are all overworked. We spend the prime part of most of our days at work so when would we even have time to hang out in third spaces were they abundant?
Technically cafes, book stores, and gyms count as third spaces. Issue is, these are all places of business. They aren't work for you but they are work for someone. Meaning:
Hours are not flexible
Interactions between people are not the priority; profit is and so:
"Loitering" (just existing without spending money) is not generally acceptable.
So, at least to me, that makes me see them as not true third spaces.
And then on top of the decline of third spaces you have the fact that we are all overworked. We spend the prime part of most of our days at work so when would we even have time to hang out in third spaces were they abundant?