Can you compliment guys and be nice to them without them thinking you are hitting on them?

In real life I feel like I always have to act abrasive and like a b*tch around guys because any time I'm nice I get the overwhelming feeling that they think I am hitting on them or want to date them. Like I would love to give guys compliments and be a nice person but I have heard from friends and stories about guys who think that gives them permission to do stuff with the girls. I also hateee if anyone knows I have a crush on them so I just outright avoid them and force myself to stop crushing. But I want to be able to have guy friends. Real dilemma here.

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zoiera

I think it mostly depend on the timing and the situation. Like if you compliment a colleague who was just promoted and who happened to be a guy, that should be safe. If he thinks otherwise then it's his problem not yours.

newdawnnewday · 22-25, F

@zoiera I feel like a congratulations you earned it would def be a safe zone. I was thinking more of like hyping guys up when they feel down or etc.