Can you compliment guys and be nice to them without them thinking you are hitting on them?

In real life I feel like I always have to act abrasive and like a b*tch around guys because any time I'm nice I get the overwhelming feeling that they think I am hitting on them or want to date them. Like I would love to give guys compliments and be a nice person but I have heard from friends and stories about guys who think that gives them permission to do stuff with the girls. I also hateee if anyone knows I have a crush on them so I just outright avoid them and force myself to stop crushing. But I want to be able to have guy friends. Real dilemma here.

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pelman0011 · 56-60, M

Depends on the compliments you give out.

If you say; "Hey John! You look so hot right now. Those pants really show off your butt!"...then he's probably going to think you're hitting on him.

However, if you say: "Hey John! You know; your nose hairs are growing out nicely."...then I wouldn't think he would take that as being hit on.

But seriously, it all depends on the compliment and the relationship...but I would think, for the most part, that you can give guys compliments without them thinking too much of it.

newdawnnewday · 22-25, F

@pelman0011 im dead I think the nose hair compliment would really win them over. Idk some guys dont get the hint when you aren't looking for anything unfortunately