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Can you compliment guys and be nice to them without them thinking you are hitting on them?

In real life I feel like I always have to act abrasive and like a b*tch around guys because any time I'm nice I get the overwhelming feeling that they think I am hitting on them or want to date them. Like I would love to give guys compliments and be a nice person but I have heard from friends and stories about guys who think that gives them permission to do stuff with the girls. I also hateee if anyone knows I have a crush on them so I just outright avoid them and force myself to stop crushing. But I want to be able to have guy friends. Real dilemma here.
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PhilDeep · 51-55, M
Unfortunately society seems too sexualised to accept that a compliment can be without sexual intent.
newdawnnewday · 22-25, F
@PhilDeep Isn't it sad :(
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
@newdawnnewday Well, one way to look at it is we are more prudent to maintain boundaries. Ideals may be appealing in theory but hard to sustain in practice.
newdawnnewday · 22-25, F
@PhilDeep I guess but I don't think giving a nice compliment should be a boundary. But I guess you're right it seems idealistic
PhilDeep · 51-55, M
@newdawnnewday I meant prudent to avoid an unfortunate practical consequence of something innocent because life is like that.