I’m struggling

I have a friend whom the family does not like to have hang around because he shows up when my family is in town and right before dinner time. It’s odd. I agree. He’s also a little special. As in how does he not understand that he’s not invited to dinner?

I’m usually loyal to people who love me. He knows this. But it makes my family feel awkward. I’m not sure what to do. I feel stupid. I care for him but my sister does not. Which is ironic. She calls him an opportunistic person. Ultimately, I believe he just want fee as if he is part of a family. Truly I’m torn because Christmas is about welcoming those who have no where to go metaphorically speaking.

If you are a compassionate soul, please help me.

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StormInaTeacup

Does he do this every time? Our family often see the things we can't. Even when we think we know our friends motives. It can be hard for us to know which way we should go. I wonder if your kindness is being used against you by him.

Mindful · 56-60, F

Only on major holidays and he only wants to leave gifts and say hello. I feel that my sister is the one who can’t comprehend my compassion because it doesn’t fit her idea of charity. I feel she doesn’t understand true meaning of compassion unless it’s defined by society or a church planned activity? @StormInaTeacup

StormInaTeacup

@Mindful then if thats what you feel, be true to yourself 😊