I Believe A Guy And A Girl Can Be Just Friends
Whether or not certain guys believe it though, is a different question :P
22-25, F
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
I have lots of female friends and have most of my life that we knew friends is all we would ever be
Many of them have asked would I be interested in marrying them ,but I knew for that to happen they would have to change things for me and I in turn would feel obligated to changer things about myself for them ,
Years ago maybe I would have done that to them and myself ,but we were friends a long time before my buddies they were married to passed away and I ended up single ,
one ,my best friends widow ,I know she would be an awesome wife ,,she put up with him for years and always had his back ,,
But they also screwed their kids up ,never setting boundaries ,always giving them anything they wanted ,never making them earn anything
and now she has 30 - 40 yr old addicts still hanging on to Mommies coattail
and I am wise enough to know that alone would end us ,I could not tolerate that ,,when it comes to our kids ,we are totally different people ,
And maybe she would change that for me ,who knows ,,but to me ,its wouldn't be fair of me to ask .
She has offered for me to come stay with her for awhile ,,,when I said no she started sending me messages about how I need to let go of my past ,and look for the future I may be passing up ,,,now some guys I know would have jumped on this ,,she is still a very pretty lady ,and a proven very supportive wife .
But I am a real friend ,and I want to remain that way
If I took her up on her offer ,and then she resented me ,,because I would want her to care for us ,and let her kids finally grow up
Not only would we both be hurt ,I would lose a friend
I am tired of being alone ,,,but my heart is not a toy and neither is theirs
I would rather have a long term friend ,then a short term lover
The wise know when not to mess up a long term friendship ,for short term pleasure
A real friend cares about your life and future ahead of his own
The right one will fit ,and I won't need to change her ,or I for her
But I am thankful for all my female friends ,,
They know how I am and now we have all that BS out of the way ,they know I don't have any plans to just sleep with them ,our friendship means more to me than that ,,,,and I am always there for them ,,no strings attached
Many of them have asked would I be interested in marrying them ,but I knew for that to happen they would have to change things for me and I in turn would feel obligated to changer things about myself for them ,
Years ago maybe I would have done that to them and myself ,but we were friends a long time before my buddies they were married to passed away and I ended up single ,
one ,my best friends widow ,I know she would be an awesome wife ,,she put up with him for years and always had his back ,,
But they also screwed their kids up ,never setting boundaries ,always giving them anything they wanted ,never making them earn anything
and now she has 30 - 40 yr old addicts still hanging on to Mommies coattail
and I am wise enough to know that alone would end us ,I could not tolerate that ,,when it comes to our kids ,we are totally different people ,
And maybe she would change that for me ,who knows ,,but to me ,its wouldn't be fair of me to ask .
She has offered for me to come stay with her for awhile ,,,when I said no she started sending me messages about how I need to let go of my past ,and look for the future I may be passing up ,,,now some guys I know would have jumped on this ,,she is still a very pretty lady ,and a proven very supportive wife .
But I am a real friend ,and I want to remain that way
If I took her up on her offer ,and then she resented me ,,because I would want her to care for us ,and let her kids finally grow up
Not only would we both be hurt ,I would lose a friend
I am tired of being alone ,,,but my heart is not a toy and neither is theirs
I would rather have a long term friend ,then a short term lover
The wise know when not to mess up a long term friendship ,for short term pleasure
A real friend cares about your life and future ahead of his own
The right one will fit ,and I won't need to change her ,or I for her
But I am thankful for all my female friends ,,
They know how I am and now we have all that BS out of the way ,they know I don't have any plans to just sleep with them ,our friendship means more to me than that ,,,,and I am always there for them ,,no strings attached