Yisrael · 46-50, M
@NYCChick It’s hard to have real friends as an adult, being aware of yourself, broke, wealthy, attractive, gridlocked and etc. Life is the Circus. Especially when you have been through it. I have my own reservations about a lot of things and simply being alone isn’t what drives me to do this. It’s the social dynamic of being able to color outside the lines of dealing with the same kinda folk.
SouthernGuy1987 · 36-40, M
@NYCChick Very true. I've experienced the same thing many times with so called friends but they were really just using me the whole time. I feel your pain sadly 😕
Lostpoet · M
Look into Community out reach programs it might help. I've joined a running group and everyone in it seems really cool. I'm kind of in the same place as you I don't really trust people and sometimes my past experiences have lead me to be unnecessarily rude to people.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
Good luck to you. I'm in a similar situation I just don't know if I'm ready yet. We aren't meant to be isolated for long periods. Science can even tell us that now.
It's hard when you've been through things that really hurt you though. Over and over. It doesn't feel safe to look for anything in others.
It's hard when you've been through things that really hurt you though. Over and over. It doesn't feel safe to look for anything in others.
Yisrael · 46-50, M
@ScreamingFox I am exactly in that situation. I have no family life. There’s no repair for it. Been alone for decades. I have made my peace with relationships and puppy love. I am too hard to love and my nerves aren’t good enough to dance with the realities of dealing with a woman in.a casual sex capacity or a relationship. So being real about the self check no matter how much I try to get ready I never will be. I have been hurt a lot and I have hurt people not being able to get over the things I have been through. Being safe for me is just another justification for staying where I am at. I have been through so much that sex, desire and a lot of things are just fading. I just want peace and routine. Get a little of the noise of life here and there. Other than that I am meant to be alone and understanding that this is just how I am made and not where I fail as a person.