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FatsoJoe · 31-35, M
Just say that you're a widower. Say your wife died. Also, if you choose to go down this route, there are people you can pay to take selfies with you for a price. They'll make the picture look like you're couples.
Like others are saying, just keep your story straight. Say that you won't date for awhile because you'd feel like it's a betrayal to your dead wife. Say she got buried in some other country or something.
Like others are saying, just keep your story straight. Say that you won't date for awhile because you'd feel like it's a betrayal to your dead wife. Say she got buried in some other country or something.
Who says you have to answer any personal questions? Just tell them straight you don't wish to talk about it and keep to everyday kind of things.
You don't have to get involved with people if you don't want to, just keep a boundery. But I think you might need a little help and the treatment centre should provide you with that, at least someone professional to talk to.
Plenty of people work with others without getting too close to them, they are just work colleagues after all.
You don't have to get involved with people if you don't want to, just keep a boundery. But I think you might need a little help and the treatment centre should provide you with that, at least someone professional to talk to.
Plenty of people work with others without getting too close to them, they are just work colleagues after all.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@Jemimapuddleduck Yes, boundaries. I'm learning more and more about those, and that it's okay to have them. A counselor was telling me about that at the treatment center.
Jemimapuddleduck · 31-35, F
@HermannFegelein Good, but don't bother about wearing a fake wedding ring as it might just lead to more questions. Just deal with what you can.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
Interesting
So, I don't like very personal questions either.
Coworkers don't need to know you on a deeply personal level.
There is a certain level of things/topics that I am willing to share with coworkers.
They are light things about family, my hobbies and some experiences when I was younger.
To a certain extent, I guess I am avoidant too.
For example, there was a store that I frequented.
Every time I went, "Bob" was working there and would always speak. Friendly at first, then he got a little flirty, so I stopped going to that store.
If the same cashier is checking me out every week at the grocery store, I switch it up and go elsewhere before circling back.
I have more scenarios but to avoid writing a novel I'll leave with this: you are in charge of how little or how much you want to share with others.
I think a wedding ring is a good idea, especially if you AREN'T looking for a mate. I'd hate to be wearing a fake one and get approached by someone that I really would talk to 😄
Also, if you go for the fake ring, I guess be prepared for questions about the "marriage'. But again, you can go as far as you want with people.
So, I don't like very personal questions either.
Coworkers don't need to know you on a deeply personal level.
There is a certain level of things/topics that I am willing to share with coworkers.
They are light things about family, my hobbies and some experiences when I was younger.
To a certain extent, I guess I am avoidant too.
For example, there was a store that I frequented.
Every time I went, "Bob" was working there and would always speak. Friendly at first, then he got a little flirty, so I stopped going to that store.
If the same cashier is checking me out every week at the grocery store, I switch it up and go elsewhere before circling back.
I have more scenarios but to avoid writing a novel I'll leave with this: you are in charge of how little or how much you want to share with others.
I think a wedding ring is a good idea, especially if you AREN'T looking for a mate. I'd hate to be wearing a fake one and get approached by someone that I really would talk to 😄
Also, if you go for the fake ring, I guess be prepared for questions about the "marriage'. But again, you can go as far as you want with people.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
